Spice of life: Gift of trust
What’s the most cherished gift your parents have given you so far? It could be a special toy that you always longed for, a pretty dress that made you feel like a princess, the latest gizmo, a swanky car or an all-paid trip to your dream destination.chandigarh Updated: Jun 12, 2015 10:08 IST
What’s the most cherished gift your parents have given you so far? It could be a special toy that you always longed for, a pretty dress that made you feel like a princess, the latest gizmo, a swanky car or an all-paid trip to your dream destination. The list could be endless as parents don’t need an occasion or reason to express their unconditional love.
They strive to raise their children in a secure environment replete with all possible materialistic comforts. Ironically, we deem their selfless love as our birth right and their duty.
If I recall my journey from being a carefree teenager to a cranky mother of a soonto-be teenager, I find my parents earnestly tried to provide my brother and me a humble upbringing. Neither too overwhelming nor too subdued, we had the perfect environ of a middle class family, wherein parents blend conventional parenting with a more liberal outlook. A family where parents’ dreams are fashioned by their children’s desires. I know most of you can relate to this sentiment and must be wondering what’s so extraordinary about it. Don’t all parents do the same?
I agree they fulfilled all responsibilities that parents are usually expected to. But what makes them exceptional is their gift of absolute and unflinching trust, the greatest gift ever. While schooling, there was no undue stringency or burden of expectations on us. Finishing first on the podium, either in academics or extracurricular activities was never a ‘Sword of Damocles’ hanging over our head. Putting in a sincere effort and faring well was good enough. They motivated us to excel without any bribe or bullying. They inculcated ethics and values in us but never resorted to moral policing.
Similarly, our vocational choice was not dictated or imposed upon. Parental guidance was always there but we had the freedom to follow our dreams and aspirations. Believe me it was not easy for them to keep pace and patience with my ambitions and frequently altering career preferences. Doctor initially, a fashion designer later, civil servant thereafter, so on and so forth. But all through this, they never undermined our ability to carve a niche for ourselves or discouraged us to pursue our goals. Along the way, I admit making some lousy choices but had their relentless support, nonetheless.
And then came the biggest trial of a parent’s trust, that is, acknowledging their still gullible ward’s judiciousness to choose a life partner and that too, when it defies conventional socio-religious norms. Today, being a parent myself I know we are not confident of our child’s discretion even in trivial matters like dressing, eating, playing, friends etc, let alone their sensibility to shoulder responsibility of such a lifeimpacting decision. But my parents not only showered their blessings on us but also defended us against the conformists reproach. It takes a lot of conviction for parents to believe in their child’s wisdom and courage to stand by them when they err. I feel fortunate having this priceless bequest of trust from my parents and wish being worthy of it, ever. As it’s truly said, “Trust is a gift you must cherish for it can never be given twice.”