If someone hurts you, let them know how you feel about it

Since my childhood I have been told that anger is a negative emotion. It is a momentary and superficial outburst of aggression and can have grave repercussions.

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Often I have taught my beloved juniors, “You’ll never regret your silence so much as your blunt words. So, curb yourself, reconcile with silence, nip your outburst in the bud, and let the moment pass ...”

But is it always so? Is anger always detrimental? Is silence always a better option than venting your hurt feelings?

Sometimes I feel if you want a relationship to survive, you must not keep silent. You must not have negative thoughts, allow unimaginable differences to grow and let someone very dear to you drift away, simply because letting him know he has hurt you seems a little against the convention we believe in.

On the contrary, the closer you are to someone, the more you are sure this person will understand your thoughts, will not abandon you for letting him know how you feel, the more imperative it is to vent your disappointment. Asking for a genuine explanation for things is a sign of your commitment to this relationship.

At the end of the day, honesty in a relationship is more valuable than a rosy communication or sugary expression. Not always, but sometimes, with some very indispensable people in your life, maybe your family or the closest of your friends, or some highly revered senior , smiles or normal behaviour must give way to a spontaneous outburst of honest anger. This is to let them remain special in your life.

Well, sometimes only and on some very special occasions.

(Inner Voice comprises contributions from our readers. The views expressed are personal.)