How to de-escalate a conflict? Therapist shares tips

From taking a break to taking responsibility for escalating the conflict, here are a few ways to de-escalate a conflict.

Published on: Dec 17, 2023 1:29 PM IST

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In a relationship, it is important to address and de-escalate a conflict to stop it from going out of control. "The secret to de-escalation of conflict is to recognise and attend to the vulnerable spots in ways that don’t engage in negativity, shame, blame, or criticism," wrote Therapist Jordan Dann. Here are a few ways to de-escalate a conflict. (Unsplash)

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Connection and repair are not possible when the people are activated and dysregulated. It is important to take a break and come back to it later.  (Unsplash)

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We need to pause to help the nervous system regulate. Taking deep breaths and going to another room to calm down can help.  (Unsplash)

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We need to stop the me versus you thinking. A relationship requires two people to work as a team and solve things together.  (Unsplash)

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When we are responsible for escalating the conflict, we should take responsibility for it and work on addressing it.  (Unsplash)

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We should zoom out and get a clear picture of the main reason for the fight and try to solve things from the core. (Unsplash)