Father’s Day: Meet the super dads of Delhi who are no less than superheroes
When it comes to raising a child, the credit is mostly given to mothers and one rarely hears fathers talking about it. This Father’s Day, we speak to single fathers in the Capital who are taking care of their children like a mother.sex and relationships Updated: Jun 17, 2018 13:25 IST
Remember Rahul Khanna from the 1998 film Kuch Kuch Hota Hai? Actor Shah Rukh Khan played this single father who is a super-dad balancing work and his daughter’s dance classes and camp.
While that might have been a sweet reel story, there are many such real heartwarming tales of single fathers who are bending backwards to be not just great dads, but also a mother, guide and friend to their children.
On Father’s Day today, we speak to single fathers in Delhi to know their stories, and salute their spirit.
‘A team of three’
Chartered accountant Naresh Dhamija is a father of two daughters. He lost his wife 13 years ago. “It was a sudden death. My elder daughter was 13, and the younger one 10. We were shaken indeed, but we accepted our fate and formed a strong team of three. I told my daughters to treat me as their friend and that there were no boundaries in our case. They’ve shared everything with me, and I have actively taken part in all their activities. They shared their teenage troubles openly. We do everything together, from watching TV shows and taking stock of each other’s days to reminiscing their mom. You know how time flies; evenings have come a long way from homework and exam woes to what happened in office and where to travel next. It has been an adventurous and fun journey so far. I have committed my life to my daughters and I’m a proud father to see the strong, independent women they have grown up to become. The values inculcated by my wife in her time with them have served our family really well. Both mine and my wife’s families and friends have been my source of strength, and spirituality is what keeps me going”, he says with a smile.
‘A father, mother, maid, cook, et al’
Manoj Kumar (name changed on request) has a 10-year-old son. He separated from his wife three years ago and got legal custody for his son. “I am not just a father to him, but a maid, cook, tutor, chauffer and a mother, of course. I enjoy every bit of these roles. The biggest challenge I have faced so far was to take his custody and things seemed not so difficult then. I am a disciplined man and I want him to also maintain discipline in his life. He is allowed to watch television only one hour a day. His teachers and parents of his friends are very impressed with him. He comes along for my Yoga classes; we play together and spend a lot of time with each other. I am a self-employed man and I want him to be a good human being and a successful person in future. I make sure that he doesn’t miss his mom too much but his mom meets once a month and he enjoys that,” shares Kumar.
Dad on Duty
A doctor by profession, Rajiv Anand has a 19-year-old daughter. “I lost my wife three years ago to a heart attack. My daughter was in 10th standard. It was a challenging phase for us. I started waking up early, would decide the breakfast and wait for her to go to school. I would then go to my clinic, and return before my evening shift would begin. I kept a check on her homework and made sure she took part in various activities. We weren’t so open with each other initially, but became friends after her mom died. She used to share everything with me. Now, she is in college and a grown-up girl. When it was about puberty and period talk, she discussed things with my mom and me. I want her to be like her mom — strong and independent,” says Anand.
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First Published: Jun 17, 2018 13:25 IST