Shaheen Bhatt: Love to envy your sibling?
Envy and agony
Hi Shaheen: I love my younger sister, but I am jealous that she’s better at studies than me. Everyone in the family seems to love her more because of that too. As a result, I sometimes say mean things. How do I control this?
—Shweta K, Bengaluru
Sibling rivalry is normal, but left unchecked, it can turn into envy. Envy usually has to do more with one’s own self-esteem than someone else’s accomplishments. Just because your sister is good at studies, it doesn’t mean you are less valuable. Keep in mind that how the family treats her is not her fault.
Family relationships are complicated. Most times people are oblivious to how they make you feel, so before you worry that they love her more, tell them this is how you feel. You might be surprised at the response.
Shaheen Bhatt’s public outing of her own challenges with mental health fuelled discourse about a relatively ignored topic, and made her a role model for young girls to look up to
From HT Brunch, November 8, 2020
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