Male puberty problems
Male children attain puberty at a slightly older age than their female counterparts. Around the age of 12, a boy’s voice begins to change and he starts developing facial hair and even the wisp of a moustache. The male pattern of hairline also starts to get established at this age.
The parents notice a few behavioural changes in their son. The boy who earlier used to be afraid of being scolded or who used to sulk following a dressing down, is now angry and rebellious. Some boys may even bang their heads on the wall or throw objects around if things do not go their way.
It is very important for parents to handle the child with understanding during this period. Even when the boy behaves unreasonably, the parents must not lose their cool but should accept it as a part of the growing process.
Boys are often more confused about puberty than girls, for a variety of reasons. For one, the changes in the physical appearance are far more gradual in boys than in girls.
Further, there are no major events like menstruation to emphasise these changes. Secondly, while most mothers explain the processes of puberty to their daughters, rarely do fathers do the same to their sons. So the boy often ends up with half-baked or wrong information that he has obtained from his friends and this may instil unnecessary fears in him.
It is therefore essential for the father to explain the facts of life to his son and if he feels shy or awkward to do so he can get the boy a good factual book which explains these matter well.
Not being treated as a child while at the same time not being accepted as an adult can lead to a lot of frustration in boys and some of them may seek release for their anger in a violent manner. It is imperative for parents to maintain an understanding attitude at this stage.