Here’s how to get your guy!
My column on wooing the girl of your dreams got a huge response, which just goes to show how all of us can do with a little help every once in a while. Rannvijay gives 'dating' tips.india Updated: May 25, 2009 19:30 IST
Fine, girls… you’ve convinced me! My column on wooing the girl of your dreams got a huge response, which just goes to show how all of us can do with a little help every once in a while. Initially, the mails I got were basically guys telling me how the tips worked for them… well, most of them.
For those who didn’t get the desired result, I can only hope you’ve come up with a better way (which you can share with me) to make an impression on the fairer sex. Anyway, a couple of days later, and the inbox was flooded with mails from girls asking for a similar column… this time on how to get the guy you’re after.
I was hesitant at first, but after innumerable discussions with my friends — guys and girls — I’ve decided to give it a shot. And I credit it to your persistence, girls! So, here are some things to help you get the guy you have a crush on…
Make the first move — only because he won’t. We guys may like someone for ages and still never express it (probably more out of fear of rejection than anything). So, take the plunge and drop a hint. And for those of you who get tongue-tied when face-to-face with a hottie, take the easy route and just SMS.
Treading the thin line — Okay! So, you’ve made the first move. Now comes the hard part — be too subtle in your approach and the guy will never know you like him. Come across too strong and you might just scare him off (commitment phobia, you know)! It’s a balancing act initially, but gets better as you go along.
The ‘make-him-jealous’ trick rarely works — Unless you are sure he’s totally into you, flirting with another guy to make him jealous might just send the wrong signals. For all you know, he might just wish you luck in your ‘relationship’.
All’s not fair in love — Don’t take this thing of ‘guys are hard outside, soft inside’ too seriously. Press him too hard to open up and expect him to cry on your shoulder and you might just put him off. If guys have to, they usually open up on their own.
Don’t let push come to shove — So he’s spending more time with his friends or on the PlayStation… so what? Don’t get into a habit of competing for his attention… the more something is forced on to us guys, the more we resist.
Oh! And finally, guys like to blabber just as much, if not more, as you do. So, be a good listener (just like you ask us to do the same). Like last time, I must say every guy is different and there’s no sure shot way that works (life would be too easy then, wouldn’t it?).
But I hope these tips will help you get what you want. Do let me know how it went… as always, I love to hear from you.
First Published: May 25, 2009 19:11 IST