'I can't stand being linked with married men'
The beauty pageant winner from Hyderabad was messing up..with thwarted relationships and ho-hum movies. Today, she has cleaned up her act.. and is even considered a ‘lucky charm’ by showbiz satraps. So, here’s Dia Mirza on how men don’t matter any more.. peace of mind and the movies do.. interviewed by Nilufer Qureshi.
Where do I begin? Umm, last year I had loads of free time, so I'd enrolled in a cake decoration course. I was also painting, reading.. just being with myself. But the last six months have been hectic.
These days, a film's promotional work takes up more time than its actual shooting. But I still paint when I can.
Apparently at a recent seminar at K C College, you did quite a bit of media bashing.
No, I didn't. True I did speak on the media but there was no bashing as such. I said most of the time the information that is published is an extracted part of an extended story. The seminar was on mass communication and its repercussions and influence on society.
I gave the example that on a particular day, the news of the death of our ex-PM Chandrashekhar was covered by a section of the press on Page 3.. while the front page had the speculated kiss between Ronaldo-Bipasha Basu.
I also said that it is not media's fault but ours because we subscribe to such information they feed us with. It is a vicious cycle. I spoke about the honest and unbiased reporting by some senior journalists. All this was ignored.. it was only reported that I bashed the media.
At the Sa Re Ga Ma show on TV, a contestant proposed to you.. was that staged?
(Smiles) I'm not sure whether Himesh (Reshammiya) told him to do that or he did it on his own. Either way, the guy has been all over the news. I don't think he'd even imagined that he would end up getting this kind of publicity.
It's sweet when a young guy who doesn't know you, says something like that - simply because of the image of you in his mind. If some one I knew suddenly proposed to me on TV, it would have been terrifying.
Which has been the weirdest proposal ever made to you?
There wasn't a proposal but an incident. A young man came to Mumbai from London and signed me for an endorsement. I even did a press shoot for the product. He paid me the agreed sum and vanished into thin air. There has been no news from him for a year now. So, I haven't touched his money. I'm still trying to figure out if he was a fan or what?
Do you think you have been unlucky in love?
Somewhere, I read this line which makes a lot of sense to me. It is, "There are no mistakes, God's timing is always perfect even if we don't see it at that time." Some experiences may have taken a part of me away but I've learnt to bear up. I don't look back and say I've been unlucky in love.. maybe the time just wasn't right.
Are you open to a relationship now?
No. When I'm in a relationship, I give it everything I've got. I don't want to be subjected to that again. I will get into a relationship the day I feel I will receive as much as I give. I know you cannot calculate or quantify love.. but the fact is that I'm tired of halfway relationships.
What about marriage?
I'm 25. I'd like to get married eventually. I don't want to be involved in just affairs or relationships. Which girl would? Now if I go out with someone, it will be because I want to spend the rest of my life with him. If a man offers me that, I'll be with him. Otherwise, sorry I'm not interested.
How did you react to the news of your relationships with Sanjay Gupta and Kunal Kapoor?
The one with Sanjay Gupta shocked me. We share a professional equation. After Shootout at Lokhandwala, I will be doing more films with White Feathers.. because they are making many films.
It's irritating when you read that I'm getting close to someone to get work out of him. How sick is that! Honestly, I can't stand being linked with men who are married or who are in a relationship already.
I wasn't surprised about that all the talk.. linking me with Kunal.. because we were very good friends. We're both single.. so it became kind of natural for people to assume things.
Whom would you like to marry ideally?
(Laughs) Hugh Grant. He seems like perfect husband material. I've heard that he is single.. but he's just too old for me.
What's the best way for a man to woo you?
Just be honest. I feel good when people treat me for the person I am.. and when they woo me after they've got to know me.. as opposed to wooing me just because I'm an actress.
Are you satisfied with your career?
I wouldn't say I'm jumping with joy but I'm so much more settled now. I was advised against doing both Parineeta and Lage Raho Munnabhai. Still, I went ahead with them.. because I needed to break away from the clutter I was caught up in. I wanted to be seen in good films. And see, they made a difference.
Honestly, I did go through a bad phase when filmmakers didn't want to cast me because they thought their film wouldn't do well then. Now they feel if they cast me, their films will do well.
Any career mistakes?
When I started out, I was very naïve. Most of what I did was very instinctive. Also I was very confused about who I wanted to be. I wasn't sure whether I wanted to be a Shabana Azmi or a Madhuri Dixit.
I'm basically talking about the contrast in the choice of work. I've now balanced out between what satisfies me creatively and what satisfies the bank balance.