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Making friends of foes

Anger is one of our worst enemies. It is weird that we feed and nurture our enemy all through our life.

india Updated: Oct 17, 2011 01:01 IST
Krishan Kumar Goyal
Krishan Kumar Goyal
Hindustan Times

Anger is one of our worst enemies. It is weird that we feed and nurture our enemy all through our life.

As humans, we have been bestowed the capability and the intellect to turn foes into friends. So can we make “anger” a friend? Sounds strange but as Henry Ford remarked, “Whether you think that you can or that you can’t, you are usually right”. All the same, this feat is something that would require immense determination, courage and most importantly a stable and resolute mind.

As social beings, we deal and interact. In the course of such interactions, be it with a friend or a foe, if the third party (anger) intervenes, it becomes a group discussion with participants being “my intellect”, “my anger” and the other person.

The anger starts off with varying scale for different type of persons, and unless given a befitting reproach, reaches the top end of the scale within no time, unknowingly though.

In Hindu mythology, Lord Shiva is associated with “anger”. Nonetheless, he is reckoned as the “Karuna Avtaar”, the Lord of Mercy. This is because Lord Shiva has tamed anger into a benevolent trait. The Lord is the master and ‘anger’ is the servant.

Dr. Asthana (Boman Irani) in the movie ‘Munnabhai MBBS’, though a villainous character, gave a strong message to be imbibed, that of advocating laughter therapy whenever anger sets in. In a broader perspective, it was actually the practice of reminding oneself of the intrusion of anger so as not to let it trespass on one’s intellect. The tidal wave of anger can be more ferocious than a tsunami.

The practice of pressing the panic button is what we ought to habituate ourselves with in this tussle with anger so that the evil of anger might also know that it has a worthy opponent.

No wonder, the movie ‘Zanjeer’ visualised the epitome of friendship between the samaritan played by Amitabh Bachchan and the foe-turned-die-hard friend character Sher Khan (Pran), thus symbolising anger converted into a great friend.

First Published: Oct 17, 2011 01:00 IST