Signs of emotionally immature parents: Psychologist points out

When we go to our parents for a conversation involving our trauma, often they get defensive and are not ready to have the discussion. This is a sign of emotional immaturity.

Published on: Jul 18, 2022 10:33 AM IST

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When we undergo trauma cycles and hope to work on it to come out stronger, it is very natural for us to want to talk to our parents about the way we are feeling. However, often our parents are not equipped to handle the conversation. What keeps them away? Psychologist Nicole LePera addressed this issue and wrote about Emotionally Immature parents in her recent Instagram post. (Unsplash)

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“Understanding emotionally immature parents (EIP) is actually a gift because it allows you to be aware of where your parent is at and what they’re capable of understanding or giving you. Many of us desperately want to be seen or heard by a parent who cannot give these things to themselves— so they certainly can give this to us,” wrote Nicole in her post. (Unsplash)

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When we go to our parents for a conversation involving our trauma, often they get defensive and are not ready to have the discussion. This is a sign of emotional immaturity. (Unsplash)

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Sometimes our parents are unable to have emotionally vulnerable conversations which further pushes us away – this is another sign. (Unsplash)

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When we have discussion son our trauma cycles with them, they often shift the conversation to make themselves the centre and how the situation impacts them. (Unsplash)

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In case of conflict or issues in parenting, emotionally immature parents are unable to work through it and make things better. (Unsplash)

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Acceptance is the key to deal with emotionally immature parents. “Acceptance of parents as flawed human beings (like all of us) allows us to focus on our own healing. We cannot change our parents. What we can change is ourselves,” suggested Nicole. (Unsplash)