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Friend indeed

The smell of a certain antiseptic brings an instant recall of the ‘don’t ever talk to me’ kind of fights you’ve had with your brother or sister.

sex and relationships Updated: Oct 29, 2008 15:32 IST
Hindustan Times

Childhood memories are pure nostalgia. The smell of a certain antiseptic brings an instant recall of the ‘don’t ever talk to me’ kind of fights you’ve had with your brother or sister.

If you have to put up with an older brother, especially during your growing-up years, you always think that you can’t be friends with him ever. The obvious reason being, the generation gap.

An older brother has to live up to the ‘father figure’ image. When his darling sister is seen around with a ‘male’ friend, it can get the guy into serious trouble. So what happens over the years when the once dreaded bhaiya and his little sister realise that they can look beyond their conditioned roles, and can, surprisingly become friends?

Be my friend
Sanjana Sharma says, “During my college days, I was very scared of my older brother. But things are different today.” An incident in her brother’s life make him an emotional wreck. Sanjana continues, “Although I was seven years younger than him, I helped him to come out of his depression. And we became friends after that.” She smiles, “But yes, he still does not know that I used to have a huge crush on his best friend.”

Nandita Upreti recalls, “My brother is just a year older than me. I remember how he interfered with everything I did. He was the only person I hated during my school days.” And she was thrilled when she got to know that he would be sent to a boarding school.

Too authoritative
Nandita reveals, “But our relationship changed soon. I found a friend in him when he went away and wrote me a letter, ‘Little sis, I hope you understand the concern I’ve always had for you. I just wanted to guide you so that you make the right decisions. I hope I didn’t come across as someone too authoritative. I’m always there for you.’”

Now, besides a big brother she also considers him as a good friend. Enough reason for her to add him to her ‘Best Friends’ list on Orkut.

Agony uncle
Smita shares a different relationship with her brothers. She has two older brothers, one of whom is nine years and other is seven years older than her.

She says, “Things used to be the other way around. I used to eavesdrop on the phone conversations they had with their friends, those typical guy talks.” And she reported this ad vermatim to her mother.

But over time, things changed and her brothers became her ‘agony uncles’. Smita laughs, “An older brother can be the person with whom you can share your crazy dreams. When you become his good friend, you can confess that you had shooed away his first girlfriend by telling her untruths about him.”

First Published: Oct 29, 2008 14:56 IST