How can you truly know a person till you spend time with him or her? Sujata Reddy on online relationships.sex and relationships Updated: Oct 07, 2008 19:57 IST
I always thought long-distance relationships aren’t worth the effort. How can you truly know a person till you spend time with him or her? After all, things aren’t always hunky-dory online and over the phone.
And when you meet a person occasionally, you tend to put on your best behaviour. It’s only after a couple of years of courtship that the real personality takes over, completely. Many agree with this logic but that still doesn’t stop them from developing internet relationships.
My school friend Mayank once swore that he would never date a girl he didn’t know well. “I have to know her. You never know when you end up with a psycho otherwise,” he would say.
Imagine my shock when I heard one day, that he is head over heels in love with a girl, whom he met on a social networking site. It all started when he left her a message that praised her profile picture.
A few days later, she reverted with a smart answer. Soon they chatted on yahoo.. then exchanged cell phone numbers. They chatted into the night and realised that they were in love.
Then Mayank went to Delhi for a day—just to meet her — in person. He came back and announced that they were now officially dating.
So, they were online friends for a year, then met once and dated for two years after that. In the span of three years, they met five times.
Mayank is leaving for the US for three years to pursue aeronautical engineering and his girlfriend Seema is going to London to pursue her studies.
But they’re committed to each other. They plan to tie the knot after five years — once they’re settled in their careers.
Well, if Mayank has no problem with this whirlwind romance, his friends have no right to, either. But I still wonder if things will be hunky-dory between them, when they spend more time with each other – in person.
Mayank proudly says that even though it’s been three years since he’s known Seema, they hardly fight and they get along very well. He claims, “I know her likes and dislikes, her friends and everything else there is to know about a person.”
Duh, obviously there’s a difference in knowing all this over the phone and online and experiencing it in person. Love is blind they say, so here’s hope it continues to be so, once Mayank and Seema do get married and take their relationship off the internet as well.