Recently, Amitabh Bachchan launched Shatrughan Sinha’s biography in Mumbai. The duo has worked together in several films in the past, Kaala Patthar (1979), Shaan (1980), Dostana (1980) and Naseeb (1981) being the most notable among them. They have also shared a bittersweet bond over the years. In spite of being at loggerheads and having differences in the past, they maintained at the event that they are good friends. Both of them even spoke about the friction between them.
“We’re friends, so we have the right to fight and differ too. It is democracy. We have been friends for so long. These things happen. But it doesn’t mean we carry forward the fight (sic),” said Sinha. Bachchan added, “Shatrughan is younger to me, and I believe those who are younger have the right to say whatever they want to about the elders. If this relationship of friendship wouldn’t have been there then there would’ve been no give and take, which is very necessary between friends. Getting upset, giving abuses, all these keep going on (sic).”
So, what’s the secret behind a lasting friendship? Relationship counsellor Praney Anand says that friendship is one of the strongest, yet most volatile human relationships. “While friendship isn’t a familial or legal relationship like that of a spouse, sibling or a parent, it is one of the most emotionally fulfilling associations. Often, friends come together when they have a common experience to bond over –– school, college, same work area or a cultural or sports activity to name a few. Usually, people with similar or complementary personalities remain friends for a long time. Such associations require a deep understanding of the other person, unconditional love and a sense of ‘I’ve got your back’.”
Like any other relationship, differences occur between friends as well. So, it’s important that one recognises and works on ways to recover from such episodes, without letting the other person down. It’s also important to have a plan to fix the problem.
So, how can you continue being friends even after having fights? Anand says this depends on what the argument was about. “Usually, trivial issues arising out of jealously and miscommunication can be easily sorted out through open communication. More emotionally-charged differences take time to heal. However, if communication is maintained, things can be sorted out. Of course, a lot depends on how strong the relationship was prior to the fight. Sometimes, a mutual friend might be able to mend relationships. This can be tricky, as the other person may not be capable of handling this sort of a negotiation,” he adds.
Also, in friendship, it’s possible that your better half may have an issue with the strong bond you share with your friend, especially if he he or she is of the opposite sex. Relationship expert Vishnu Modi feels that you need to talk out these issues with your partner. “Talk to your partner about the issues he or she has. The three of you can even have a joint discussion on the topic, and clear your problems. In fact, this way your partner can get to know your friend as well,” he says.
Celebrities who have been friends over the years
Rakesh Roshan, Jeetendra and Rishi Kapoor
They have been friends for about four decades. Roshan has often spoken about their friendship, saying that even though they were contemporaries, they never competed against each other, and they spend a lot of time together. It has been also reported that they meet every evening.
Salman Khan and Akshay Kumar
The duo has worked together in movies like Jaan-E-Mann (2006) and Mujhse Shaadi Karogi (2004). Not much has been written about their friendship, but it is well-known that they are buddies and often praise each other’s works.
Tobey Maguire and Leonardo DiCaprio
The duo met at an audition in the late ’80s. DiCaprio once revealed in an interview, “After I met Tobey at an audition, I felt like I wanted this guy to be my friend. I remember driving back from school and he was doing Hot Rod Brown Class Clown with Whoopi Goldberg outside Hollywood High. It was a high school. And I jumped out of my car in the middle of the scene, as they were shooting, practically. I was like, `Tobey! Tobey! Tobey! Give me your number.’ He was like, `Yeah, who are you again?’ (sic)”
Naomi Watts and Nicole Kidman
They met while studying at the North Sydney Girls High School in New South Wales, Australia. Watts once told a magazine, “Naomi Watts and I are very, very good friends and have maintained that through many things… I think that’s really rare, particularly for actresses, and I take a lot of pride in that,” Kidman told the Telegraph. “We share a naughty wicked sense of humor (sic),”
Ben Affleck and Matt Damon
The duo, who worked together on the script of Good Will Hunting (1997) and featured in it, have been childhood friends. They always supported each other. They are so close to each other, that it had been reported that they were in a relationship, which they denied.
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