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Falling in love is complicated enough. But falling in love with a friend who is sleeping with you but not in love with you? Why make a cocktail of your relationship, asks Tavishi Paitandy Rastogi

brunch Updated: Aug 04, 2012 17:50 IST
Tavishi Paitandy Rastogi
Tavishi Paitandy Rastogi
Hindustan Times

Cocktail… just saw the film the other day. The name itself, I thought was quite potent. Come to think of it, a heady mix of anything, however good it all may be, eventually turns out not as great a comforter as it may seem. It could be just your drinks or… your relationships.

Really, a mix of friendship and sex or love and friendship can create havoc… in your head at least. The movie, for those who haven’t seen it yet, is based on a relationship between three people. Deepika and Saif are in an open relationship.

CocktailThey are great friends and obviously enjoy some fringe benefits of sleeping with each other. "But no emotional attachment" is their war cry! Things, however get complicated when Saif starts to "connect emotionally" with Deepika’s best friend and house mate Diana Penty.

Deepika obviously feels betrayed – by her best friend and her lover. And what of the "emotional attachment" clause, cries Saif? But that was just that, a clause!

So the question remains, can we ever have a "no emotional attachment" relationship with a friend? I don’t think so. Friendship with fringe benefits is like the very usual LIIT (Long Island Ice Tea), the very heady cocktail. One doesn’t realise when it starts to hit and when someone has gone overboard.

CocktailFalling in love is complicated enough. But falling in love with a friend who is sleeping with you but not in love with you but with someone else… phew!

And what happens to the basic tenet of it all – friendship? In most cases, like in the film, one has to back out. Usually the "just good friend". After all no promises were made, were they?

What remains is of course is the hurt, the betrayal and a feeling of having loved and lost. And of course the garb of "oh! we are BFF". You smile and laugh and be the good girl or boy and give up on the love of your life. You dance to the music playing on his/her marriage and stand waving ‘happy honeymoon’ to them, all the way feeing like the biggest fool and martyr ever on planet Earth!

Worth it? Just as much as the LIIT.

I’ll stay away from the cocktail… you take your pick.

From HT Brunch, August 5

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First Published: Aug 04, 2012 13:39 IST