Nobody can inspire surrogacy, Not Ricky Martin, not Tusshar Kapoor, says Karan Johar
K Jo feels one has to be ready for surrogacy mentally, physically and logisticallybrunch Updated: May 11, 2017 12:52 IST
Being a single father in India come with its own set of challenges, and more so if one opts for a surrogate baby. But unlike many actions that need a little bit of push from the people around you, the only one that helps when you opt for surrogacy is the one by the surrogate mother when the baby is born. You cannot look up to others for inspiration or motivation. Karan Johar, who has recently become a father through surrogacy, pointed this out in an interview to HTBrunch.
“There are some famous single fathers in the world, celebs who were brave to have babies out of surrogacy, like Cristiano Ronaldo and Ricky Martin. But I wasn’t inspired by them. Or by anybody. I know Tusshar Kapoor took the step first. And what he did was amazing. But by the time his son Laksshya was born, my procedure had also started. I feel connected to Tusshar by our common decision. You can’t be inspired by anybody to have a baby out of surrogacy. You have to be emotionally ready. I was also prepared mentally, physically and logistically,” Karan said in the interview admitting that even at 40, he wasn’t ready for fatherhood. But today, after considering all the responsibilities and duties that come with being a single parent, he finds himself fully equipped to become a dad.
“This was an emotional, well-thought-out decision made after acknowledging and addressing all the issues facing me, and after considering all the responsibilities and duties that come with being a single parent.”
“At 40, I wasn’t ready. But two years ago, I decided I needed to bring this new energy into my life. I didn’t want to be a victim of my achievements. It’s easy to get carried away by who I am. But I never wanted to be defined by my professional successes. I thought I had lived half my life, and all the things I had done were great, but what about things I hadn’t done? Your achievements are transitional. Emotions are permanent. I had been thinking about having a child for a long time. And I knew I had the capacity to be an adequate parent. I’ve nurtured so many people in the film industry, so many young actors, I’ve been like a parent to them more than a producer and director. I’ve been with them in their professional highs and their emotional meltdowns.
“But I played devil’s advocate with myself. Was I being selfish? Did I want to have a child only because I was afraid of growing old alone? Would I be an overprotective and overindulgent father because I wouldn’t want my child to accuse me of being a flawed parent and grow up missing a mother? But who’s to tell me that I can’t be a responsible parent and the best mother and father in the world to my kid? This was an emotional, well-thought-out decision made after acknowledging and addressing all the issues facing me, and after considering all the responsibilities and duties that come with being a single parent. I was ready for fatherhood. But was I prepared for twins? I was ready for triplets!” he said in the interview.
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First Published: May 11, 2017 12:52 IST