Kids, not parents, must make a career choice
Like every year, as the examination season culminates it leaves the mind of most students in a muddled state especially if they have appeared for Class 10 or 12 exams. Reason: Either they fail to understand their interest or they are forced to opt for a career of their parents’ choice.chandigarh Updated: Apr 16, 2014 10:48 IST
Like every year, as the examination season culminates it leaves the mind of most students in a muddled state especially if they have appeared for Class 10 or 12 exams. Reason: Either they fail to understand their interest or they are forced to opt for a career of their parents’ choice.
Though most admissions have been processed on provisional basis and results are awaited, it should not be ignored that it has become a text book case that changing of streams and subjects by students go on for months post admission.
According to experts, it is because the talent of young students who do hold high aims and aspirations is being highly ignored which leads to changing of streams and subjects. They maintain that in such a state, they feel they are good for nothing and end up remaining confused to discover their aptitude.
At the condition of anonymity, a 25-year-old film maker Ishan Chopra said though he had discovered his passion for films and wanted to pursue arts after his schooling, his parents pressurised him to take commerce followed by MBA.
“I was never interested to take up commerce as I knew it well that it was not my cup of tea. I told them several times that I want to take up arts. On a languid note, I opted for BCom, but after I completed it, I was rigid to pursue film making. I went to Mumbai and pursued my passion and will continue to live with it till my last breath,” he said. “Parents should not forget the adage that you can take a boy out of the country but not the country out of the boy,” he said.
Recently, the Hindustan Times also interviewed Pawan Chopra and Reena Chopra, parents of Bollywood actress Parineeti Chopra, who were in the city to watch the autobiographical play by Anupam Kher. On being asked about the upbringing of Parineeti they said, “Unlike most parents, we never pressurised Parineeti, and her brothers to choose careers that were against their aptitude and interest.”
Bollywood singer Harshdeep Kaur, who visited the city recently, said that she was more than thankful to her parents who supported her talent and inspired her to polish it as much as possible.
“Parents should remember that ‘a bird never flew on one wing’. Similarly, if they discover their children’s talent in something, they should never discourage them from pursuing it,” Kaur added.
BP Mishra, clinical psychiatrist professor, Dayanad Medical College and Hospital (DMCH), said, “Generally, it has been seen that parents try to fulfil their own unfulfilled dreams by forcing their children to opt for subjects of their own choice, thus giving them a disturbing experience. This culture should be discouraged and parents should motivate their children to follow their interests.”
However, parents can help children in discovering their passion and continuously help him to follow it. Also, all schools must start career counselling sessions with both children and parents.