Rebuilding Relationships

Alcoholism isolates you from sources of affection. Sooner or later your world is going to get dreary.

“ No man is an island, everybody is a part of the whole” - John Donne

We feel the need to relate to other human beings and to express and receive affection. Alcoholism isolates you from sources of affection. Sooner or later your world is going to get dreary.


The pattern of behaviour in an alcoholic’s family

When the alcoholic is inebriated, he uses violence - verbally or physically. When the alcoholic gets sober, the spouse gives reign to his/her resentment over the alcoholic and the relationship. A festering bitterness prevails in the household.

There is a lack of trust. Nobody trusts you to handle money or be punctual anymore.

There is a lack of communication. Time is spent in battling with the problem of drink. There is not much time or the atmosphere for discussing family decisions. The real issues take a backseat.

You are supervised (or nagged) even over simple things. You have to be reminded or persuaded even to complete your daily routine, if you have had a bad drinking bout. This attitude continues even when you are sober.

A sense of negligence prevails. The house gets an unkempt look The children may either get coddled or treated with harshness when the level of frustration gets high. There seems to be no pride in any aspect of home making.

(Source: Webhealthcentre.com)