Ask the Expert: 'Should I get divorced?'

"I am a young married woman, but not with my husband for the past two months ..."Submit your query

I am married but not with my husband for the last 2 months due to lack of understanding. I have a little baby and she is also with my husband. I left him but my daughter is not with me. I want to ask you to suggest me what to do. Shall I go back to my husband or shall I get divorced?
Sex: F
Age: 27
Dear, you have not mentioned any reason or description of the situation before you decided to quit. Separating from the spouse could be because of more than one reason. You are 27 and I hope that you know what and why you are deciding whatever you are deciding. Your mail, although suggested to me that you have not completely abandoned the idea of a patch up. That is something on which something can be worked at. Sit with someone who isn't really a yes man. Review the entire situation once again. Break-ups seldom occur because of one person's fault.

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You will have to review the situation because of two reasons. One, because if you were not at fault than the mistake of returning should not recur. And secondly, if you also have contributed to the situation somewhat then you should return with a better coping style.

Life does not have readymade solutions. You will have to work hard to evolve the solution which makes your life smooth. You can even come back with more information if you choose to.

Our expert Seema Sharma is a Clinical Psychologist with a degree in Medical & Social Psychology from National Institute of Mental Health and Neuro Sciences, Bangalore. She has been running a psychotherapy clinic named 'SAMADHAN' in Meerut dealing specifically with the cases of psychotherapy and psychodiagnostics since 1991.

You can contact her on the following numbers:
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