'I like her, but call her sister'
1. I am 22. I like a girl who is a little elder to me. I know her since childhood through some family friends. But I had to call her sister due to family pressure. I love her very much, but she is not aware of my feelings. I wish to marry her. I spend time with her daily even though I do not have any physical relation with her. I can't think of ruining her life. How can I convince her about my love?
'Stuck between parents and wife'
2. I have been married for two years now. But unfortunately my wife and mom do not get along very well. I am badly stuck between my parents and life partner. I can't afford to leave either of them! What should I do?
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How to get rid of other woman?
1. I am a 27-year-old married man. I live in the US and from here I participate in a lot of social activities in India related to children's welfare and better governance. During one of these activities, I met a 20-year-old girl on the Net and got friendly. We exchanged regular mails over a period of one year and during the talks she opened out on her personal life and details. At a point, she had a sour relationship so I helped her with some friendly advice. I never told her of my marital status since I never got down to personal details and moreover I keep a safe distance from people I meet through the Internet. She started her interactions daily and at times called me from India. I gradually cut down my contact with her. Somehow she got to know that I am married and the next thing I know is she is totally disturbed. She found my wife's email (from the same organization website that we work for) and has started abusing and telling her to divorce me. Ignorance is bliss and that's what I did. But now she has started giving her death threats. I know all this is crazy but what's wrong with this girl? I never said I love her nor getting her in love was my intention. I was just being friendly. Now my wife is angry with me since this is not the first time a girl has liked me. All this is creating problems in my married life. Is it bad to be a plain nice guy and be friendly with someone without any bad intentions? What should I do now?
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: You are being stalked. An overtly friendly helpful person like you (referred to as 'ladies man' in a derogatory way) is a most likely victim of a woman spurned. Your wife is the best person to protect you from the wrath of this lady stalker and you should put in a sincere effort to win over your wife and keep her on your side. The need for changing your behaviour towards is so obvious that it need not be suggested.
How to feel an orgasm?
2. I am 21-years-old. I get very excited while having sex with my fiancé but I don't think I have ever felt an orgasm, but he has on multiple occasions. I am curious to know if I am just unaware of how it actually feels or works? He asks me if I have experienced an orgasm, but I honestly can't say for sure. Can you give me any suggestions here?
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Female orgasm is complex issue and words are not sufficient to explain it. To know or to experience orgasm, wait till you are fully involved in sexual activity. For your information it is likely that a woman might live through her life without ever experiencing it.
First Published: Nov 28, 2006 16:01 IST