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Unsure of colleague's intentions

There is this lady colleague in my office who is married with two kids. She stands very close to me while talking and go on with her conversation for long...

india Updated: Dec 14, 2006 15:44 IST


Unsure of colleague's intentions

I am a 30-year-old man working in a private organisation. There is this lady colleague who is married with two kids. I have to constantly interact with her as we are working on the same project. We get along quite well but of late I have been noticing certain changes in her behaviour. She stands very close to me while talking and go on with her conversation for long. She often makes such movements that allow me to have a glimpse of her cleavage. Once she also started fondling with her bra strap. She undoes her hair whenever she is with me and runs her fingers through them. I am not sure of her intentions. Is she interested in having sex with me? I am getting attracted towards her and masturbate thinking of her.


Upset with wife's depression

I am a 34-tear-old male, married for about 7 years now. I have one daughter and a son. My wife is highly educated and a nice person. She also takes good care of kids and me. I trust and respect her. But the problem starts with her negative attitude towards life. Since my marriage, I have noticed that she carries a lot of misconceptions about the people around her. I have been able to carry on this relationship smoothly so far by respecting her feelings. However, whenever I try to focus on real life problems, she gets upset. She is very possessive and this pulls me away from many important issues. When I tried to talk to her about this issue, she got upset and even quarrelled with me. This is seriously affecting my professional life. Kindly advice what should I do.


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Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Your use of the word obsession is not correct, as you have actually become paranoid (suspicious). You should see a psychiatrist to get out of this condition with medicines and counseling.