How to cope with grief

Some people take months to fully accept or adapt to a loss. For others, the process may take years. Here're the tips that will help to minimise grief.

Grief of any sort—be it the death a loved one, a job loss, end of a marriage or an illness—affects different people differently, says a new study.

The study provides an overview of grief -- a normal reaction to loss.

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In years past, grief often was described as following a certain pattern or orderly progression from one feeling to another. But not everyone grieves in the same way—people who are grieving experience many different emotions in any number of combinations, including denial, sadness, anger, confusion, despair and even guilt. Physical reactions can include sleeping problems, changes in appetite, a drop in energy level, body aches and pain or the development or worsening of an illness. Time spent grieving varies, too—some people take months to fully accept or adapt to a loss. For others, the process may take years. Thus, the researchers have offered tips to help cope with grief, which are as follows:

Express feelings— Suppressing thoughts and emotions may prevent working through grief. Friends, family or members of the religious community often can be a source of support and comfort. Other options are support groups or grief counselors.

Delay any major decisions or changes—Decisions that affect life and lifestyle, such as housing changes or new ways of handling finances, should wait a while. Advice from a trusted family member or friend, financial adviser or attorney may be helpful.

Take care of personal health— Eating right, getting adequate sleep and limiting alcohol are important. Regular exercise can relieve stress and anxiety.

Be patient—Expecting to simply “get over” grief is unrealistic. Ups and downs may last for weeks or months following a loss. Though some feelings of loss may never fully go away, the most intense signs and symptoms of grief typically diminish over time, within six months or so.

Grief that is prolonged and debilitating may be a sign of depression or post-traumatic stress disorder. A doctor should be consulted for treatment options. The study has been published in the latest issue of Mayo Clinic Women’s HealthSource.