When sarcasm cuts like a knife: Dealing with a sarcastic partner
Being sarcastic might be good, but not always. If you use sarcasm as a disguise to criticise your partner, read on...Updated: May 20, 2019 12:03 IST
Being a sarcastic person might make you stand out from the rest. But sometimes, it can backfire at you when it comes to your personal relationships. Wondering how? Many times, sarcastic people forget to draw a line when it comes to passing comments and expressing feelings. And that is something which can take your relationship down south in an instant.Experts Dr Anil Sethi and Shivani Misri Sadhoo explain how being overly sarcastic can cause harm to your relationship.
1)Disguised insults: If you are one of those who have issues with confronting, then most probably sarcasm is your way of letting out your hidden issues. Many people tend to use sarcasm as a tool to subtly express themselves or pass insults without even realising it. Not to forget, sarcasm often carries an undercurrent of truth. However, not saying things directly to your partner when you feel there’s something wrong in your relationship can be quite painful for your partner to deal with.
2)No credibility: Consistent use of sarcasm might lead to loss of trust. This happens because your partner will always keep wondering about your real intentions. It’s not easy to decipher what you actually mean when you’re sarcastic all the time.
3)Lack of self confidence: It’s only human to feel humiliated and dejected when one is constantly bombarded with sarcastic jokes. This can lead to your partner doubting his or her self-worth, which is detrimental to their confidence.
4)Manipulation: If you often use sarcasm to dominate and control your partner, it can leave them feeling low and insecure. Trying to make someone feel inferior by cracking hurtful jokes is not something a loving partner should do.
5)Cuts like a knife: ‘‘Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me’. Yes, it’s true but not always. Sometimes, those mean and rude remarks leave an everlasting mark. And, it’s hard to move on from that. Hence, one must understand that being overly sarcastic can damage a relationship.
First Published: May 20, 2019 12:03 IST