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After 30 years in Bengaluru, techie asks which Tier 2 city is best for ‘Forever Home’
The techie shared that his family had lived in Bengaluru for almost 30 years but had reached a “breaking point” over rising costs and infrastructure concerns.
A software engineer planning to leave Bengaluru after nearly 3 decades has turned to Reddit for advice on choosing a “forever home” for himself and his retired parents.
In a detailed post, the user said his family had lived in Bengaluru for almost 30 years but had reached a “breaking point” over rising costs and infrastructure concerns. Now working fully remote, the user said that he is considering a permanent move to a Tier 2 city and is seeking a “ground-reality check” before making the big decision.
“I need an honest ground-reality check on which city is actually prepared for the next decade,” the OP wrote. He shared that his shortlisted cities include Indore, Chandigarh (Tricity), Jaipur, Lucknow, and Ahmedabad/Gandhinagar. He also laid out specific concerns.
“While I'm remote now, the world is unpredictable. If I ever need or want to pivot back to an in-office role, which of these cities has the most legitimate, senior-level job market? I'm looking for cities where ‘IT Hub’ isn't just a marketing buzzword but a place with actual opportunities,” he said.
The OP wrote that healthcare for parents, who are both in their 70s, is another major priority. “Coming from the Manipal/Apollo ecosystem in Bangalore, my biggest fear is moving my parents (70+) to a city where healthcare is fragmented. Which of these cities has truly world-class, multi-specialty hospitals with reliable emergency response and top-tier specialists available on short notice?” he asked.
Infrastructure plans for 2026-2030 also weigh heavily on his mind. He shared that he is looking for a city with dependable 24/7 power supply, modern drainage, and road planning that won’t spiral into congestion in the next few years.
Beyond basics, the user said that he wants a 4BHK in a well-managed gated township rather than a standalone house. “I want professional management, high security, and a cosmopolitan crowd where a family moving from a metro for 30 years will actually fit in,” he wrote.
Community integration is another factor. Since his parents have spent decades in the South, they value peace and order. He asked which city would offer a cultural homecoming for North Indians without aggressive or closed social circles.
Further, the Redditor listed his dilemmas. He said that Indore appeals for its cleanliness and safety, but wondered if professional growth might be limited. Chandigarh and Mohali seem well-organised, but he questioned whether they justify the premium pricing. Ahmedabad and Gandhinagar show high growth potential with GIFT City, but the techie said that he is unsure about social integration for non-Gujarati North Indians. Jaipur and Lucknow also attract him with heritage and culture, but he said that he worries about infrastructure keeping pace with population growth.
“This is a massive move for my parents after 30 years in one place. If you were in my shoes, which city would you trust with your family's long-term health and peace of mind? I'm looking for the ground reality that a RERA brochure will never show me,” the user concluded.
Social media reactions
The post sparked wide discussion.
Reacting to the post, one user wrote, “OP, "Forever Home" is where your heart is (or is going to be)... Go on extended stay to the target cities and then decide.”
“Hey man , why don't you consider a south indian city/state ? Mysore could fit your bill. Low aqi, greenery, great healthcare. It may be expensive but you can find cheaper homes too. Plus your fam would know kannada too so easy to integrate. And IT jobs would increase over time plus you can always commute to Bangalore. +Similar weather,” suggested another.
“My 2 cents. Don't do it. The toil on the senior minds is not worth the risk. If they are genuinely excited ask them which location excites them the most. Jaipur is brilliant though, the places are very beautiful and every city is seeped in rich heritage,” wrote a third user.
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