Today in New Delhi, India
Oct 22, 2018-Monday
New Delhi
  • Humidity
  • Wind

No more excuses, it’s time to start making connections

Sometimes when we feel anxious we start finding excuses to escape certain situations.

columns Updated: Sep 17, 2015 12:30 IST
Abhay Rawal
Abhay Rawal
Hindustan Times
An ‘asexual’ is a person who does not experience sexual attraction, according to the definition drawn up to describe the orientation of a less known but growing community of people in various countries. (Representative photo: Shutterstock)

There is a famous quote by C JoyBell C: “You can talk with someone for years, every day, and still it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone; not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.... connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”

Sometimes when we feel anxious we start finding excuses to escape certain situations.

All this happens because we are not sure of ourselves, and we are scared of our friends, relatives and even family.

You may not need to call or meet your friend or relatives every day to keep your relations strong and alive. But you need to be true to the bond that keeps your relationship alive and everlasting.

I think if you declare somebody as your own, it means you must have a mutual understanding, and if you have that, there’s no need to give excuses or explanations.

Those who love you, understand you and need you, will never ask for it. Having said that, one must also keep in mind that those who don’t care about you, don’t deserve justifications or excuses.

If you need to make someone understand your role or participation, if you are forced to justify yourself, or if you are lying because of fear then you need to think again about that relationship.

This doesn’t mean that you do not even try to make things work.

What it means is that you should question whether there is love, a strong bond or a sense of satisfaction between you and that person.

If yes, then hold on to that relationship till the last breath. If not, it’s better to leave before it’s too late.

Inner Voice comprises contributions from our readers. The views expressed are personal. You can mail your views to

First Published: Aug 25, 2015 22:46 IST