Matchmaking on earth
THIS SUNDAY afternoon, I got married? Well! Almost. But for my credentials and steely resolve to stick to work, during office hours, you wouldnt be reading this byline.india Updated: Apr 09, 2007 17:27 IST
This Sunday afternoon, I got married… Well! Almost. But for my credentials and steely resolve to stick to work, during office hours, you wouldn’t be reading this byline.
It was the European Railway Club. I was on my usual culture beat assignment and I walked in sniffing for a story. Just a step inside the venue, and three people ballooned out from nowhere, with deep consternation writ large on their faces: “Beti, aapke mummy, papa kahan hai… (‘Dear, where are your parents?’)”
I wasn’t sure if one took their parents along on reporting assignments! Muddled, I stepped back. A deeply agitated ‘aunty’ held my wrist whispering “Where’s your bio-data?”
But it wasn’t my day (to hook up yet), I immediately explained to them.
A lot of young people and their “mummy papas” however, were more than happy to hear these questions. The IX Yadav Vaivahik Parichay Sammelan organised by the Yadav Parivarik Milan Samiti was a huge draw this Sunday. Such is the shortage of youngsters of “marriageable” age that hardly anyone was free to stand and stare at the gathering.
Young men had queued up to read out their bio-data one by one on stage. Girls’ bio-data were read out by their parents. Even as one applicant would finish and alight from the stage, ‘interested’ parents would rush to him.
Sample this: “My name is Ravi Yadav. My father’s name is Ram Gopal Yadav. My mother’s name is Shanti Yadav. I have two brothers and two sisters. All of them are younger than me. I am working for a government bank. I plan to take the Civil Services exam this year. My residential address…”
As soon as this boy finished with his introduction and returned to his seat, parents of girls queued up to meet him and exchange CVs. The boy, on his part, made notes of what the girl does, does she know how to cook etc. Telephone numbers were jotted down hastily.
(Psst! Yes, one of the details discussed between various families was, “Shaadi mein kitna lagaayenge? (How much will you spend on the marriage?)”
The organisers said of the 1,000 applicants they had enlisted, 650 were girls.
Families had come all the way from as far of as Nagpur and Mumbai for the Sammelan that’s held twice a year (June and December) in different parts of India. One of the Yadav families that had come from Shajehanpur said, “We got a good match for our daughter last year at this Sammelan and this year, we’ve come for our son”.
Annapurna Yadav, one of the organisers says, “The Sammelan gives a platform to parents to choose suitable matches for their children. It also gives the parents and the marriageable boys and girls get a wider choice. They can choose from amongst so many eligible children. Apart from this, it is an informal way of introducing boys and girls.”
In modern times when finding the right match is a tough job, such Sammelans surely, provide a convenient apt platform for making marriages on earth!