The contract karma
I have found out slowly that my family was only interested in the amount of money I could give them. What should I do? Veena Minocha answers.
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I am writing to you in desperation because I have just about had it in my life. My parents, my wife, my three children, all have turned their backs on me, and I have nobody left to call my own. I found out slowly, that each one of them was only interested in the amount of money I could give them.
All of them, including my own parents, tried their best to gyp me out of the fortune I have made, with my own hard work, in these twenty odd years that I have been in the United States. I gave them my love, my attention, my care, and my money for all these years. It has turned out that they have loved me only for my money and all the comforts that it gave them. When I need them, they have no time for me, so one fine day I decided not to finance them anymore, and that was the end of my relationships.
Is this my 'karma' that I have to be 'used' by all these people whom I considered my very own? Where should I go, and what should I do, now that I am all alone in the world?
Nitin Khosla from Denver, USA
Veena Minocha answers: Dear Nitin, it is a sad and hard fact that this sort of situation is not an isolated instance. The materialistic world has overtaken the few genuine serving ones like you. Yes, the answer to your question is that this is part of your karma, as well as that of your closest ones, who have now left you.
You have come in with the contract, that, up till this time you would love them and finance them, but the time is up now. Do not feel sorry for yourself but look at the overview of the situation. Those who depended on you for their lavish lifestyle are now being put to the test, they have to do without all that you had provided for them, and work for themselves.
On your part, you have repaid the 'karmic' debt you owed them, and have cleaned out your slate, as you have no more 'owing' left to complete. It is time for you to grow spiritually, and use your money for charitable deeds, or wherever you feel there are needy people, to whom you will give without expecting anything in return. This will give you a greater sense of self-fulfillment, and as you turn your attention to them you will find that you miss your family less and less.
Do not think about them, leave alone worry about them, they are also moving into the next stage of their karma, where they have to work to look after themselves. Pray for them, that the path to their enlightenment is through this stage, for they will realize their shortcomings, and start valuing all that they had received from you, unconditionally. If they did not enter into this phase of their lives, unsupported by you, how would they learn to appreciate, and be grateful for all those years when you did everything for them?
Leave them to their learning process, and you can now be free to gain your own spiritual enlightenment, by leaps and bounds, as anguish always brings us closer to our true selves, and thence to God!