My wife's ex is back!
1. I am 31-years-old, well-placed person with a happy married life. Few days back, I happened to check my wife's recent mail in which she has been communicating with her ex-boyfriend who is now in Australia. The content of the mail in which she proclaims that she has been thinking of him all of the time, etc, has left me devastated. What I have been thinking of a dream marriage seems to have no roots of love. I do not want to confront her on this otherwise I may be labeled as a peeping tom nor do I want any discussion on this very sensitive issue. I feel I have been a failure as a husband as all these five years of married life I failed to get real love from her. Moreover, she has never told me anything about her last crush and I have never even asked her anything as I had always considered that as a closed matter. She has never been cooperative in bed, but now all of a sudden, she wants a scorpion baby (her ex's sun sign) and wants me to cooperate (which I was happily doing until I came across all this). All this is depressing me deeply and I am not able to concentrate on my job. Please help!
Husband ruining married life
2. I am a 44-year-old woman. My husband is very unhealthy. He smokes and drinks a lot. There is no sex or affection at all from his side and he doesn't even want to change anything. I am very depressed due to all this. I don't have a job, friends, or children and I am new to the place (USA). I want to have a child so badly but in this marriage it seems impossible. I don't know what to do! Please suggest a way out.
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'In love with dad's sis'
1. I am a 22-year-old boy in love with my father's sister - mentally and physically. I haven't disclosed this fact to her and not even anyone else. Please suggest me what to do?
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: See, there's no point running after something that cannot be yours. If you disclose your feelings, it will put you and even your family in an embarrassing position. Learn to act your age.
Will a man remain virgin if...
2. I am 28-year-old Muslim man working in the Middle East. I stay alone and masturbate thrice a week. Will this affect my sex life when I get married? I also want to know how can a man lose his virginity? If a man uses condom during his first intercourse, is he still a virgin or not? Can a woman come to know if her partner is virgin or not when they are having sex? I have heard that even men bleed while having sex only when both partners involved are virgins. Is this true? I am very keen to know the answers because I want to remain a virgin till my marriage.
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Medically speaking masturbation is harmless and it does not have any adverse effects on sexual functions. Once a person has had penetrative sex with or without a condom he is not considered a virgin. Women cannot find out the virginity status of a man just by having sex. Men hardly ever bleed during the first intercourse even when both the partners are virgins.
First Published: Jun 14, 2006 12:42 IST