Dear landlords, don't ask these awkward questions to single women
Looking for a place to stay in a new city is a pain for every young (single) woman. Not only is the city unfamiliar territory, the landlords pose awkward personal questions and make it all the more difficult to find shelter.Updated: Jul 15, 2015 03:28 IST
I (a single working woman in a big city) have seen many of you in the past couple of months but it never worked out between us.
Let me tell you why.
First things first, I think the term 'landlord' is very passé. Lordship left our country with the British Empire. So, let's settle for house owners, which is what you are.
Yes, I am a single woman living away from family and working odd hours. Does that give you a reason to judge me? You own the flat, not my life! *rolls eyes*
I know you are not even aware that you are reinforcing gender identities defined for women. So here's a reality check.
When you asked me those awkward questions, ever so casually, about my working hours, my drinking and smoking habits and more, here's what I wanted to tell you.*Do you have a boyfriend?
Yes. No. May be! May be I have a girlfriend! How does it matter? I fail to understand how my relationship status is relevant to our situation here.
* Do you drink or smoke?
Yeah I don't mind an occasional glass of wine or may be a drink or two at a party (Yes, I love parties. Judge me all you want!)
* Do you work in night shifts?
Wow! I was almost touched by the fact that you cared about my safety. But then you dropped the bomb -- you wouldn't rent your house to us night shifters. Reason- "Your safety will be too much of a concern for us."
* Will you be having guys over, often?
Hey! I am offended. What do you mean by GUYS (plural)? And anyway what is wrong with a few male friends visiting me occasionally? It doesn't really mean I am 'doing it' with everyone, just so you know.
* Do you play loud music?
Well, we have rock concerts at home every night. You can come enjoy sometimes.
* Do you eat meat? That's not allowed here, we are pure vegetarians.
I do. So? Do I come across as a non-vegetarian-food-evangelist? Rest assured, I won't force-feed you that juicy chicken tikka or spike your food with fish pickle. *evil grin*
* What is your religion?
Errm.. I don't know! Humanity?
* How old is your brother?
*Impressed* You sly fox! You just want to make sure that I don't sneak a guy into the house and call him my brother.
* We don't rent our house to journalists and lawyers?
Too risky for you? Guess what! Both these professions are risky and we take pride in our profession.
* You have to be at your best behavior. This establishment houses decent people, and there are families here.
Okay boss! I am totally confused about what best behaviour is. And this is all too much for me. I'm outta here.
Okay enough said. My point is, as long as I keep the house clean and my rent is not over-due, why should you bother about my personal life?
The author tweets as @priyankaa_sahoo
First Published: Jul 14, 2015 08:37 IST