Make a choice that is effective and productive
Dr. Jitender Nagpal guides about career decisions and choices.education Updated: Jun 22, 2009 21:03 IST
I am applying for my medical entrance next year. My marks in XII science are not very good - 60 per cent. My friends tell me that getting into medical college would be very tough. Is there a way in which one can - within a year, prepare so intensely that one gets through? However, I will be trying for BSc from a local Delhi college this year and one year would go studying for medical entrance.
- Manisha Kapoor
You can get through in a medical college within this year if you have prepared well for the PMT examination. Please focus on previous year's papers and practise the sample papers available in the market. It would be helpful if you understand that you are not alone and that a lot of your friends are also going through this transition and turmoil. Remember to share your feelings and confusions with at least one or two of your close friends or even family. Be thorough with your practice to develop speed and accuracy as that matters a lot in the entrance examination.
Also, appreciate that you completely acknowledge your dreams and are going to tackle everything along this journey. This assurance can itself be greatly empowering and motivating.
I have a problem at home. I do not have a father and my mother is working as a teacher. My younger brother has fallen ill so a lot of money is being spent for his treatment. I think I will have to drop the first year in college. I am very disappointed about this, but is there a way in which I can study in private and keep up with my studies?
- Ritesh J Kumar
Here your emotional programming is the result of decisions you made while growing up. You can definitely study privately by taking up a correspondence course from any reputed university, registered under Distance Education Council. Don't lose heart, work hard in your job and carry out your study simultaneously. There are lots of students who adopt this way and excel in life. I wish the same success for you too.
Also remember, help is at the doorstep. You just need to make a choice that is effective and productive for you. If the current scenario is significantly interfering with your overall functioning, don't be hesitant to seek further guidance and counselling for the same. Good Luck!!!
I am a short 5'4" boy of 18 years. I am not very good looking. I have also not done well in my Board exams. I want to join the movies. How can I do this? I am from Delhi and a very middle class family. Can my dream come true?
In the context you have highlighted, self-image indeed is the strongest attribute that one desires to cultivate. Dreams can come true if you are passionate about them and work hard to achieve them. Also remember there is a lot of struggle and uncertainty associated with the world of movies. So one needs to be vigilant and aware of these too. You must make positive statements about yourself and praise your efforts and not just your achievements. Kindly be prepared for the same and have a back up plan to continue with your studies to feel secure and continue with your efforts in the film industry. Take up a course in acting to learn the finer skills required in that field. You can also think of joining National School of Drama or FTII. Emphasise on your innate abilities and focus on the ongoing best efforts. Take all the available support you can from your immediate friends and family.
(The author is a programme director, Expressions India, a life skills education & school wellness programme. He's also a senior consultant psychiatrist with Moolchand Medcity & Vimhans, New Delhi. To contact him, email hthorzans at hindustantimes.com, marked 'Dr Nagpal'.)