The Middle Phase
Quite often, alcoholics in this phase, do not provide even basic needs for the dependent family.Updated: May 31, 2003 17:10 IST
Loss of Control: Initially, there is a loss of control over the amount of alcohol consumed. Later on, you lose control over the time, place and occasion of drinking.
Justifying Your Drinking: You feel guilty and depressed. You justify drinking by giving excuses such as unhappy married life, tension at office, pressure from friends to drink, etc. In an attempt to reduce the feeling of guilt, you keep giving different reasons, but your drinking continues.
Grandiose Behaviour: You talk big and spend big; more than you can afford. Quite often, alcoholics in this phase, do not provide even basic needs for the dependent family, but spend what little they have in extravagant gestures among friends.
Temporary Abstinence: By this time, your drinking has lead to plenty of problems, at home and in the office. You are at the point of losing your job and perhaps your marriage. This might make you abstain for a while.
Changing the Pattern: Some make a change in the pattern of drinking. They try to change what they drink; arrack to brandy, whiskey to beer. They try a change of place or time. But so long as it is alcohol, no matter how many changes are made, they continue to be immersed in the same problems that haunted them before.
First Published: May 31, 2003 17:10 IST