Bitching is an outlet for emotions, writes Pinky Nigam. Your takeUpdated: Jun 15, 2006 02:39 IST
When was the last time you felt someone who often gives you the creeps was badmouthing you? When was the last time you badmouthed the person back?
Okay, so when was the last time you were with your gang discussing the weird behavior of one of the girls you know? Let's use it guys, the word's called 'BITCHING'! And let's be honest, we all end up doing it even when we're trying hard to avoid it!
So, is 'Bitching' really bad? You know the other day, I was at my friend's place and this newly introduced acquaintance just walks up and comments on how 'out' she thinks my boots are and what I end up doing is obviously drag my trustee to one corner and let out just how snobbish I thought she was. So people, was I bitching? Maybe. But it surely wasn't wrong now was it! If someone probably read this and came back to me questioning, I'd say, dude she asked for it!
So now, coming back to your lives, be it work place [where I'm sure it happens all the time - in whispers or in hushed tones, it's all about how unfit you think the person is for the job that she's doing, right?] or be it college where bitching, gossiping is quite respected you know, if one bitches she's proud to be doing that simply as it's explicit and puts her on a stand of her own, maybe it even gets her famous throughout college, so what if for all the wrong reasons!
Or then be it at home, within family, those inter-personal trivial little issues that are of course blown out by our 'aunties' and 'buas' and 'maasis' on how you're not family oriented enough or probably how you're not as good as someone else!
But the word bitching surely comes from an abuse that may at some ancient point be related to an animal and female human species behaving like her. But today the word had evolved from being symbolic to an animal behavior to even expressing your discomfort with certain people, and that's when I really begin to grit my teeth as 'bitching' is the verb they describe my confessions of a bad day with…
Well what's really funny guys is that girls, young or old, sensible or immature are constantly 'bitching' in the basic sense of the word and yet cringing away from being called doing so!
Let me share a really funny incident - this girlfriend of mine during a slumber girls party just couldn't help talking about how desperate and cheap this other girl behaves in college every time she is with a guy, but then as I added on later that since she doesn't know her, she shouldn't form an opinion, she jumped up while defending herself saying how she hates it when people 'bitch' and she was unlike these bitchy females....well dude, that's exactly what you were doing!
So, consciously or sub consciously what's happened unfortunately for all us girls is that even letting out your feelings or a mere opinion about someone may brutally be termed as 'bitching' and that of course makes you a 'animal'!
Maybe, it's even the other way round as most of us may think that someone's been 'bitching' about us while he or she may just have shared their opinion on you or maybe spoken of something in you that they didn't approve of. Big deal! In fact, I would say little bitching is good for health. It's an outlet to release emotions.
So 'Bitching' isn't bad, for God's sake! Exasperating it may be but I stand up against this inhuman word that makes every secret and every comment an offense, punishable and guilt-driven! I, take this opportunity on behalf of all the women who feel the way I do, to formally amend the word from what people commonly call 'Bitching' to. …What should we call it girls…talking? No that's too plain, 'Lambing'? 'Purring' ...Hell it isn't Jungle book now…so simply 'Confessions' and 'Opinions'? What say you?
First Published: Jun 13, 2006 15:26 IST