Don't Wait: Just Ask Him Out!

Well, I know you don't know Preeti but that is no reason why I can't tell you her story! It has been a year since Preeti, a software engineer, has moved to the haloed capital of the country

Well, I know you don't know Preeti but that is no reason why I can't tell you her story!

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It has been a year since Preeti, a software engineer (besides being slim, graceful, spirited, etc.) has moved to the haloed capital of the country - armed with a plum job and perks, a new wardrobe: just what she always desired to set dreams sailing.

Stepping out of her home for an independent life - Preeti had her ambition chalked out...a tiny apartment, a car and of course (oh yes of course!) a boyfriend.

She settled in smoothly at work and home. The quaint flat - she did up delicately too. Yet, it has been a year now and leave aside a boyfriend, she has not even managed a date to speak of!

Not that she does not attract attention...what with a sweet, happy-go-lucky personality...but the one she set her eyes on...who she liked instantly after joining, Amit, she could never cull courage to speak to - though she could feel he liked her.

For a year Preeti has been waiting. Each day as she walked into her office, she would just say a tiny prayer to herself...hope he looks at me...hope he smiles - hope he asks me out!

Besotted Preeti's days would be spent in charged emotion at work and often in subtle research on him, which she would sometimes share with Shweta, a colleague.

Can't say whether Amit secretly enjoyed the attention, or even if he got the hint.

This of course until last week when Shweta crushed Preeti's heart when she said that he was dating someone.

"He had something for you Preeti...but thought you were unapproachable...and so when this girl asked him out...he went out with her and now they are dating!

Did it break Preeti's heart? May be - I can't say but surely may be you can take a lesson from this?

Waiting for him to ask you out is passé. You like him? You think he likes you? Simple:

"Do Not Wait- Just Ask Him Out"

Yes! You think you are a responsible person and smart enough to share the workplace and give the guys a run for their money - now I'm sure you can handle this as well.

It is normal. It's accepted. And hey it's the 21st century and you have the option to choose the guy you like to spend an evening with - right?

So just when you were complaining that 'Chivalry Is Dead and Buried,' here comes the good news - you can make life easy for yourself if you can take that wee bit of emotional risk.

Now how?

Be subtle...the tried and tested 'movie and coffee' thing almost always works - at least to drop a hint and if you don't want to sound pushy to start with...just plan a group outing...and work your way close to him...(this perhaps is also the safest because even if nothing works...you can at least have a pal!).

Don that sweet smile...and just do it girl! Confidence is the best turn-on - remember? (Who needs someone who feels affronted by confidence anyway!)

Now do not be bothered about being labeled 'desperate'- most guys would appreciate your spunk if you can add a little charm to the exercise.

Rejection? Come on now be a sport. You can take it on you once in a while can't you (what with the poor chaps bruising their fragile egos all the time?)

Now it is for you to decide. Can you afford to be a loser and see all the smart girls having a ball? Or, would you rather take a wee-bit of risk and spice up your life?

Your call - but winners interest me all the time!

So would you do something smart and write back to me about it?