Healing a broken heart
Relationships which have been held together forcefully through bonds of love, or friendship, seem to be lasting, when the euphoria of love feelings is washing over them. However, when circumstances dictate otherwise, they bring about a parting of ways that can be very painful, for the loss of love brings an indescribable night of angst to the soul. Plumbing the depths of this 'tearing' apart of every emotion, the human reaches the true nature of the soul, the beautiful God-self within! And a new self is reborn.
But, to go through this whole process is traumatic, and pain-filled, and many humans fall along the way in despair, bringing sickness in mind and body. Coping with the diametrically opposite emotions of low self-esteem, anger at the other one for hurting, or for betrayal, can squeeze all spiritual strength to the last drop. Hence it is important to learn how to cope with such situations.
When a human heart is wounded by another, the hurt one can only focus on the gaping, oozing wound, and not look in any other direction. To work through this means looking at our feelings openly and honestly, and accepting our own part in causing the break up. Feel every emotion that surfaces, feel it so deeply, that there comes a time when there is nothing else to feel.
Just like tears, which dry up after there are no more tears left to shed!
For if there are any feelings left unexpressed, they will remain like a canker in the soul, forever, surging up now and then, and not allowing a complete release, which is so essential to move on to the next stage of forgiveness. When feelings are experienced fully, their power to hurt also dissolves fully.
The hurt human is going through a process, which can be likened to a 'slow' death of the old, and unless his energy is now channeled into the new beginning, that every ending brings forth, life can become worthless for him.
Putting emotions of 'parting' with loved ones behind us, is a progression of the soul into higher wisdom. For it teaches us that nothing lasts forever, however much we may wish it was so. There is a part of us which has to move through this particular tortuous chapter, taking the gifts inherent in the experience, as wisdom gained.
Be patient and sensitive to the needs of such hurt souls, and help them learn, with the following meditation, to close one chapter and start another one, where the soul is strengthened through this cathartic experience!
To be continued...