'I am obsessed with older women'
1. I am 25-years-old. I am obsessed with older women. But I am married to a girl two years younger to me. I find my sex life very boring and unsatisfactory. How do I work this out?
Vijay Varun Kumar
Have I lost virginity?
2. I am in a state of deep mental agony about what I did last week. I am a 24-year-old man and still a virgin. I might sound funny, but I believe in preserving my chastity and that virginity is one of the best gifts I could have given to my wife in future. However, unfortunately, I ended up sleeping a girl. We indulged in foreplay but didn't have sex. Since then, a guilty feeling is daunting me. I cannot sleep, thinking of myself as a bad human. Am I still a virgin after what I did? Does a man lose his virginity after foreplay? Please guide me.
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'Intimacy with another woman'
1. I am 28-years-old. Though I am married from past three years, it has been an unhappy one. I have a very intimate relationship with another married woman. What is the best course of action for me?
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: You are well aware that cheating two women at the same time is not going to last long as one or the other woman is going to find out and make your life really unhappy. Now you are talking and sulking about unhappy marriage then you would know what real unhappiness (hell on earth) is.
Losing interest in wife
2. I am 35 and it's been five years of marriage. Now I have lost all interest in making love to my wife. She is good looking, but put on a little bit of weight. I get attracted to other women around but not my wife! I am very close to my kid and may be that love towards him is making me to lose interest in my wife. I am not very sure. Or it might be 'middle age crisis'. My wife is still keen on having sex. I have a athletic personality and sometimes other women get attracted to me. Maybe that is also a reason for losing interest. My work place is away from my family and I meet them only once a week. Please advise.
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Let us be very clear that there is no loss of interest in sex but loss of interest in wife. The reasons can be many as you have tried to analyze like being away from her, non-availability of wife for sex when you have the need for it, other woman being interested in you etc, but above all lack of discipline in the matter of control of sexual impulses. No one has to tell you that extra-marital sex is a sure shot route to break-up of marriage and loss of custody of the child. You as an adult are expected to take decisions, which are suitable to the whole family.
First Published: Sep 04, 2006 16:32 IST