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Please don’t boss around
Having a point of view is a good thing but forcing it on people is not, say experts.
Having a point of view is a good thing but forcing it on people is not, say experts.
A cheeky line printed on a t-shirt saying: ‘I love my attitude problem’ may bring a flash of smile on one’s face, but coming across such a person may not be a rendezvous one would like to look forward to.
HT City spoke with a few Delhiites who confessed being friends with the “so-called bossy” (overbearing attitude) people, and at times acting like one of them.
Bear the brunt
Ashok Tripathi, a professional says, “I have a friend who has a lot of attitude problem. He always gets upset if his opinion is not held high, or outlook towards certain topic is debated, and not accepted readily.” Ashok is no preacher but believes that one should have an open mind-set (be it home or a workplace), and should also consider other’s perspective rationally to mature as a person.
There are some who device tactics to deal with people who think being stern and stubborn is the right approach to get things done in their favour, but there are others, too, who think “such thinkers” (dominating people) should be treated the way they do others.
Gauhar Vatsyayan, 22, says, “There’s a friend of mine who is very dominating and going against him is out of question. Once we planned to go for a picnic and deciding on the venue we suggested the name we never wanted to visit. When we told him (as we thought) he said ‘NO’, and locked in on the place we proposed next. And this was where we all wanted to go.
So though, he thought, he dominated us, it was the other way round.”
How to go about it
Psychiatrist Sameer Parikh, says, “If your best buddy is bossy and dominating, one can tell him/her upfront, and at times ignore things that bother you. But if you come across people in day-today life, where dominating attitude of a person becomes a cause of anxiety — stating your displeasure about his/her behaviour clearly will benefit in the long run.”
He adds, “If it becomes difficult for you to tackle with the overbearing attitude of a person, making a senior intervene than taking the usual stress is advisable.”
