Straight Talk|Develop friendly relations to begin with

I am a boy of 16. I am very attracted to a classmate of mine in school. I lack the courage to convey my feelings.

Q: I am a boy of 16. I am very attracted to a classmate of mine in school. I lack the courage to convey my feelings. As a result, I now have concentration problems. Even when with friends, I find my mind wanders. Friends have started pointing out my lack of concentration. I want to tell her how I feel but fear rejection. This is affecting me and my relationship with my friends.
A: Your problem is typical of any adolescent of your age. Attraction to the opposite sex is very natural. Try and develop a friendly relationship rather than directly going up to her and confessing. Don’t be swayed by romantic thoughts.

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Try doing things which are more involving and of your interest so as to increase your concentration. You are in your crucial years and your studies need equal amount of attention.

Q: I have completed my Class X. My parents don’t trust me. I am not allowed to move out of the house without my elder brother or mother accompanying me. I don’t understand why they do not trust me. I am a responsible girl and have never given them reason to doubt me.
A: In a society like ours, parents tend to be overprotective of their children. This is more so in the case of a girl who has to constantly put up with a seemingly insecure environment whenever she steps out of home.

Therefore, it is not the lack of trust in you, but an overwhelming concern about the current scenario, which explains why they insist on somebody escorting you. It is important that you tell them that one-day you have to be independent. Maybe you can talk it out with them and slowly try to convince them.