Things women don’t want to hear
Some things are better left unsaid. And if you cherish peace in your relationship, take our advice and never ever say the following things to your lady.india Updated: Aug 03, 2012 19:05 IST
Some things are better left unsaid. And if you cherish peace in your relationship, take our advice and never ever say the following things to your lady.
1. You are fat
Any man who has been in a steady relationship will never debate this golden rule. Never ever call your girlfriend fat. Whether she really is fat or you are ‘just kidding.’ “No man or woman likes being called fat. It makes them insecure and uncomfortable. And what would you achieve by doing that?” asks Praneeta Rao, a 25-year-old business analyst.
2. Your family is cuckoo
Girls tend to be very attached to their families. Thus, they are fiercely defensive about their foibles. “She will keep complaining about her sister and her mum, but even if I merely nod my head or agree with her, I am accused of ‘attacking’ her family. Over the years, I have learnt to just listen and not comment,” laughs Sameer Anand, a 27-year-old software engineer.
3. You can’t drive
If you like making occasional ‘dumb woman’ jokes, then it’s time you steer clear of them. Woman hate being stereotyped, and calling them bad drivers is like digging your own grave. “I have heard this so often from my ex-boyfriend. It’s stupid! I can’t believe men from the 21st century can come up with such trash. Women are absolutely safe drivers,” contends Krithika Chauhan, a student from Sophia College.
4. You’re tech-challenged
Yes, she may choose to stay away from the latest gizmos, but if she puts her mind to it, she can be as tech-savvy as you are. “I have girl friends who review phones for a living. All these misconceptions are a thing of the past. Women are just as technologically active as men, they just don’t like to brag about it all the time,” claims Mehr Malhotra, a student from St Xavier’s College.
5. You spend too much
Shopping to women is what beer is to men. It is therapeutic and helps them relax. So questioning their spending habits will not be taken too kindly. However, if you must, make sure you are subtle and can tactfully cut short her spending spree.
6. You nag too much
Do all your fights end with her saying “But what did I say?” Well, women tend to get a little too worried about trivial things. However, labelling it as ‘nagging’ will only make it worse. Realise that she only does it because she cares and deal with it gently.
7. You’re too sensitive
Yes, women use tears as their standard defence mechanism. And why not? It seems to get their work done. “I think women are just made that way. We are easily moved. It’s who we are and bringing that up again and again won’t change anything,” says Diksha Gajriya, a psychology student.
First Published: Jun 23, 2012 11:50 IST