Addicted to a bad relationship?
...Many of us are! One common reason is the feeling and belief that if you end the relationship, you will never find anyone else who could possibly be interested in you or love you...sex and relationships Updated: Jun 13, 2009 20:25 IST
Everyone is addicted to something or the other. But the most common addiction is that of a bad relationship! One common reason is the feeling and belief that if you end the relationship, you will never find anyone else who could possibly be interested in you or love you.
You grow so attached to your partner that you forgot your life before him or her, making you feel fearful of being on your own and taking care of yourself. Fear of criticism is another reason many people remain in bad relationships.
They are afraid of what people will say, believing that ending a relationship means that they are a failure and being alone is unacceptable and terrifying.
Other reasons may be financial support that you are receiving from a partner, making you feel that you should tolerate bad behavior from your lover, since they are supporting you. Having a child together can also blind you or cause you to deny a bad relationship, making you feel guilty for leaving your child's mother or father.
On a deeper level, you could be addicted to disappointing and bad relationships due to your upbringing or experiences as a child yourself. Perhaps you were not nurtured or loved enough and you now think it is normal to be neglected from love, care and understanding.
What should you do and how can you break a bad relationship addiction? Since this addiction is difficult and basically impossible for you to end on your own, counseling would be the best assistance for you.
Find a counselor or service in which experts provide their services through, and take that first step in accepting the fact that you have an addiction and that you need and want help to conquer it. Start being a best friend to yourself and open the door to all the feelings you have kept locked up for so long.
Stay focused and encourage yourself frequently by setting a goal, and picturing yourself away from all the disappointment and closer to all the happiness and good health you need, desire and deserve as a person. Never give up and know that you are not alone.
There are people who can help you, know how to help and will help you. Mainly, keep in mind that there will always be a person who will be by your side and never leave you, always giving you the strength, love and support you need and that person is you.
First Published: Jun 13, 2009 20:10 IST