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Medieval pundit Pramod Muthalik should take a lesson. Rochelle Pinto on how women are asserting themselves everywhere...

sex and relationships Updated: Mar 10, 2009 20:06 IST
Rochelle Pinto
Rochelle Pinto
Hindustan Times

Medieval pundit Pramod Muthalik should take a lesson. Despite his best efforts, young Indian women are asserting themselves everywhere.. even in the dating arena.

According to a recent survey carried out by the Axe research laboratory, 92 per cent of Indian girls in all the metros confessed they were open to exchanging phone numbers with a guy they’ve just met if he makes a positive impression in the first meeting. Pooja Sinha Roy, 23, agrees, “If the vibe is right, I have no problems with exchanging phone numbers with a guy.”

The casual nature of a phone conversation makes it easier for a woman to learn more about the man in question, without her having to commit too much time. This may work in the guy’s favour as well.. he won’t have to go the traditional flowers-and-candy route as long as he keeps the conversation witty.

According to model Shamita Singha, people in metros lead lives that are too fast-paced to devote time to socialising. As they are usually well read and liberal, women aren’t afraid of giving out their numbers. “Women are getting more powerful everywhere, so it’s only natural that they gain confidence in the dating game,” she says.

“I know a lot of women who are not hesitant to make the first move in a relationship.” Which doesn’t mean the man can leave all the hard work to the woman. “I may give out my number but I’d expect the guy to make the effort to call me and make plans,” affirms Pooja.

And so to flirt..
The survey also says that 73 per cent of women believe that a relationship can mature into a steady one with texting. Payal Dass, a PR consultant says, “The fact that you can do it [SMS] when in a meeting or at the gym makes it a multi-tasking wonder.”

Direct speech
Dass also points out the fact that for those who aren’t into public displays of affection, texting is a great way to keep their relationship private. And while the survey says that 53 per cent of women prefer flirting on the phone as it provides privacy and safety, Singha differs. “Women are better communicators and would prefer to have a direct conversation. Men however use the SMS route.. probably because that gives them the freedom to message three girls simultaneously.”

First Published: Mar 10, 2009 20:03 IST