Finding sex online: I have met only one guy twice
Her usual way of deciding on a prospective date is to chat with the ones she likes for a while. Piyali doesn't let on if she is a wild sexter - someone who enjoys sending and receiving text messages with sexual content.sex and relationships Updated: Mar 08, 2015 12:49 IST
When Piyali Sahay (name changed) decided to join Tinder it was a spur-of-the-moment decision that made her do so.
"Like most not well thought out decisions my joining Tinder was the product of boredom, curiosity and my having seen my ex's honeymoon pictures on Facebook that very day," she says, adding, "For me, Tinder is about meeting new people and the whole excitement of going on a blind date. It's a game of chance and that is what is so thrilling. If you choose to hook up with a person and it works out, that's a bonus. If it doesn't work out, you can walk away from it all with minimal fuss."
Her usual way of deciding on a prospective date is to chat with the ones she likes for a while. Piyali doesn't let on if she is a wild sexter - someone who enjoys sending and receiving text messages with sexual content.
Usually, if the chats work out well, she shares her number. "This part is okay since I am pretty good at blocking people on my phone and I don't worry," she says. While many groan about the number of friendship requests from strangers on Facebook and random trolling on Twitter, an adventurous group of men - and women - are turning to sites like Tinder, Fropper and OK Cupid in search of companionship.
"I have only met one guy twice. At Cyber Hub in Gurgaon and then at a book fair. I usually don't let my Tinder date drop me home. I live alone and I would rather not let random strangers know where I live. However, as I was carrying a lot of books, I did let the boy drop me and it ended in a kiss. The kiss was okay, but he turned out to be boring," says Piyali, who only meets these men at "respectable hours and public places."
She might insist that sex doesn't top her list of priorities but a quick scroll of profiles on these sites reveals that Indian women are not shying away from putting their desires out there.
A user from New Delhi, writes in her profile: "You should message me if you're a bi/bi-curious/gay female and interested in some real fun." Many of the profiles of women on these sites mention that they are bisexual. Perhaps the online world allows women to be more honest. "I can be more myself with a stranger. I am not worried about him judging me," says 28-year-old Vinita. (*Name changed)
First Published: Mar 08, 2015 11:44 IST