Get rid of Facebook, says Cyrus Broacha
Cyrus Broacha plays agony uncle and advises people about 'friendititis’ and Facebook addiction.Updated: Mar 29, 2012 14:42 IST
Since the last six months, I’ve been friendly with my best friend’s boyfriend. We used to talk a lot. Just around November, I stopped talking to him because of some problems with my best friend. Not a single moment passes without me thinking about him. I miss him a lot. But I can’t tell him all this because I have promised another friend I won’t talk to him ever. I can’t do without him, and at the same time, I can’t share my problems with my friend as she too likes him. Now from another friend, I have found out that this friend looks at my Facebook profile all the time. Please sir, suggest something. I just feel like crying. I don’t want to hurt my friend again by patching up with him nor can I let him go away.
Quite frankly your question is giving me a case of ‘friendititis’ (too many friends). You love your best friend’s boy friend. You confide this in another friend who inadvertently also is in love with him and is spying on you through Facebook. The moral of the story so far, obviously, is to get rid of Facebook. You also say that the guy has stopped interacting with you. This in all probability is because your now ‘no longer’ best friend has got a whiff of your feelings. To me it looks like since everybody already knows how you feel, you may as well put all your cards on the table, although it looks like the guy has made his choice. And please, cut down on your friends. Haven’t you heard the saying ‘Too many friends spoil the something or the other’?
I am 19 and I like an 18-year-old girl who’s doing engineering with me. We met on Facebook last year. A few days ago, she gave me her phone number. Now we chat regularly through text messages. I think she likes me. But I’m scared to propose to her. She has her exams next week. So I don’t want to disturb her. I want to know if I’m doing the right thing.
— Mr Lonely
I hope you’re a better engineer than lover for the sake of our bridges. Look, she gave you her number, that is a sign that you’re in the game. Even in the animal kingdom if a lioness gives a lion her number it means he’s got a great shot. Now kindly avoid the love talk while her exams are on. It’s all about right place, right time. Seriously I’m a little worried about releasing your engineering skills on an unsuspecting world. The good news is, you are in the game even though you are not a lion.
A boy in my building colony used to love me a lot. He also proposed to me but I said no. Now I have started loving him. I even called him and told him the truth. But he has stopped talking to me because of his friends. This really hurt me a lot. Earlier he used to die to see me and now he doesn’t even look at me. I don’t understand what to do. Should I go and talk to him about how I feel or should I wait for him to come to me? I know that he still loves me a lot but he is hiding it. He also knows that I love him. I want him back anyhow. Please help.
Rima, if his friends can influence him that easily, then either change him or change your building colony. The way I see it, because you rejected him, sort of, once, his ego is in play. He needs a little time. I say you go talk to him, but just talk. Romance must be put in cold storage till he feels confident about you again. Once he starts spending more time with you than with his friends, you can pursue a higher romantic plan. On second thoughts, I still think it’s a great opportunity to move buildings, so to speak.
Just write to Uncle Cy
And I’ll give you some relief…. err… that is, provided, I’m not doing a headstand at the time.
First Published: Mar 29, 2012 14:34 IST