Adopt empowering truths
You have control over what you believe. According to Lisa Jimenez, author of Conquer Fear, to change your beliefs, you first need to identify and admit your negative beliefs and the fear they represent. For, she says, if you change your beliefs, you change your behaviour. And once you change your behaviour, you change your results. Change your results and you change your life.india Updated: Oct 02, 2006 16:25 IST
You have control over what you believe. According to Lisa Jimenez, author of Conquer Fear, to change your beliefs, you first need to identify and admit your negative beliefs and the fear they represent. For, she says, if you change your beliefs, you change your behaviour. And once you change your behaviour, you change your results. Change your results and you change your life.
Self-limiting beliefs are learnt behaviours. Anything that is learnt can be unlearnt as well. A person's behaviour can be changed only by changing the beliefs that cause it. Begin by listing all the negative beliefs and replacing each one of them with the "empowering truth".
Old belief: There is never enough time.
New belief: Twenty-four hours are enough in a day.
If you prioritise, you can learn to say no, have clear goals and find time to accomplish the most important things. If you think that you have time, you will see that you actually do.
Old belief: I work better under pressure.
New belief: I work best when I allow suitable time to complete tasks. You may believe that your work improves if pressure acts as a 'motivating' factor. However, if you have ample time to complete a project, you will notice the improvement in your work and creativity as well.
Old belief: There is always something.
New belief: There is a solution to every problem.
Problems are a part of everyone's life. You should not let them make you feel that your life is more important than other's because of them. Do not exaggerate your troubles.
Old belief: Anything worth doing is worth doing perfectly.
New belief: Anything worth doing is worth failing-forward at, until I get it right.
You should not worry if your ideas are laughed at or if you fail to achieve your target the first time round. Rethink your definition of failure and view it as "priceless education".
Old belief: If I say no, people will not like me.
New belief: When I say no to some opportunities, I can say yes to better ones.
If you say no, you can be dedicated to your commitments and will not run off course. You will, thus, be able to do what you want to.
Old belief: Successful people are always busy.
New belief: Successful people live a life they love and are at peace with.
People often think that successful people should look and act busy. Generally, society equates success with being busy. However, in reality, successful people lead balanced lives.
Old belief: If you want something done right, you need to do it yourself.
New belief: If you want something done right, give it to the person who can do it best.
Sometimes, it is difficult to delegate because you think you will lose control.
So, you overwork yourself. However, when you surround yourself with competent colleagues and let them do their jobs, you grant yourself the freedom to complete your assignment. In addition, says Jimenez, you can watch others shine with their talents.
Adopt these new beliefs. Write them on index cards and keep them with you —in your office, at home or in your car.
Keep them in your head and heart.
To conquer your fears, the transformation of both head and heart is necessary. Only then can you shatter your self-limiting beliefs and live to your full potential.