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Healing the ego

The moment we loosen our grip on ego, it appears to us that we are losing our grip on ourselves, and logically our identity and status.

india Updated: Mar 06, 2004 17:51 IST
Veena Minocha
Veena Minocha

We all long for a heavenly love filled life, yet, it is our own petty egos that get in our way. This self-realization comes to only those who make a sincere effort to stop pampering their egos to the extent that everything that is said or done becomes egoic and self-centred.

The moment we loosen our grip on this ego, it appears to us that we are losing our grip on our human selves, and logically our identity and status, that means all that we have worked so hard all our lives for.

Then a gut wrenching fear fills us, as we feel our whole persona could tumble down into the dust. We hold our head up high, and through the high and mighty sounding phrases of self-justification, we keep our egos intact.

Unfortunate consequences could follow, as that niggling inner voice tries very hard to tell us, but we brush it aside, the human personality emerges stronger than the compassionate loving centre.

When faced with such situations, we could try this exercise to subjugate our egoic self by gently re-modelling it, rather than rudely hassling it to do what is right and uplifting.

If you want to try this, just find a quiet place, focus on your breathing for a while to relax, and reach into the mind of your heart for what you want from this particular experience: a word like peace, healing, wholeness, oneness, or a phrase describing what you want to build into your body and mind, so that you can work out a win-win solution to the problem. When your thoughts wander, bring your mind back to the word or words of this ideal.

You will have soon become aware of how much egoic resistance your mind is pouring into you, so that you do not achieve the emotion of peace, or healing, etc. that you actually desire.

You will soon find a quiet calm and intervals of blankness, or no-thought opening to a core state of oneness with the voice of God and your soul, the divine spark of who you really are.

You may hear a voice, see images, experience a sense of knowing, or simply feel rested and receive your soul wisdom later on. Be receptive to whatever comes and be patient, knowing that only the goodness of the self can erupt out of this meditation.

Suddenly the vision of what needs to be done becomes crystal clear, like a film being played out in front of you!
As Mother Teresa has said,
"We all long for Heaven where God is, but we have it in our power to be in Heaven with Him at this very moment but being happy with him now means,
Loving as he loves
Helping as He helps
Giving as He gives
Serving as He serves
Rescuing as He rescues,
Being with Him twenty four hours,
Touching Him in His distressing disguise!

First Published: Mar 07, 2004 12:00 IST