Is virginity still a virtue?
70% of Indian women do not like the idea of getting ?revirginated? even if given an opportunity, informs Sidhi Chadha.india Updated: Jan 04, 2007 11:44 IST
The verdict is out. Indian women are not too keen on re-virgination though the demand for virgin brides remains a constant.
Statistics confirm this. Only one in a hundred girls care to restore their virginity surgically in the country. A web survey conducted by HindustanTimes.com says a resounding 70 per cent gave the thumbs-down to the idea of getting “revirginated” even if given an opportunity.
The survey also reflects the changing mindset. The modern Indian woman is not too hung up on virginity. While men face a dilemma, most still prefer a virgin wife, educated or not. Not many know ‘revirgination’ has been around in India for a while and this “wonder” technique is popular in several countries.
The myth of revirgination: It is best answered by the myth generated around the procedure. The Internet and some magazines went on an overdrive that it would spice up the sex life. Now who doesn't want that? The debate was set-off by a report from the West on vaginal reconstruction. The 40-year-old woman concerned wanted to go in for this drastic technique as a gift to her husband.
Sexologist Dr Prakash Kothari who has conducted vaginal reconstruction surgery warns, “It is a painful and an artificial treatment. Women should not tamper with nature. People have a misconception that regaining virginity can lead to a better sex life.”
Virginity is still inextricably linked in the male psyche. So women feel a need to protect their men from the truth about their sexual past.
It is just cheating: The survey revealed that close to 60 per cent women have had sexual relations before marriage. “Virginity is no more a virtue in India. It matters only to those who want to break down doors,” says Dr Kothari.
About 59 per cent women feel a relationship is not just about sex. But they feel honesty may not be the best idea when it comes to intimate relations. Dr Kothari says, “It’s the biggest myth that men can find out whether a girl is a virgin or not."
The survey says 414 women were afraid of what their partner would think if their sexual history was disclosed. The oft repeated responses — “My partner might hate me”, “My sexual past will ruin my marriage.”Around 46 per cent feel that revirgination is nothing more than a ploy to cheat your spouse.
(The survey received responses from 928 surfers of which 746 were women.)