Straight Talk|Analyse & act accordingly
Although I love my boyfriend, my problem is that I am not physically attracted to him.Updated: May 20, 2005 02:50 IST
I have been in a relationship with a nice, caring and affectionate man for the past four years. We are both in love with each other and plan to marry early next year.
Although I love my boyfriend, my problem is that I am not physically attracted to him. We have not gone ‘all the way’. But whenever we are together, I feel I am not able to respond to him physically. Why can’t I respond to him? Will this affect our married life?
There are many aspects of a marital relationship. There are people who feel that mutual respect, trust, commitment and companionship will make a marriage work. For others the physical aspect of it is as important, for sustaining a marital relationship. On the other hand, a mutually satisfying sexual relationship does not just happen automatically and is related to other aspects of marital life.
You have had this relationship for some time now and you would know best what attracts both of you to each other or has kept this relationship going. It is also possible that once you have formalised your relationship, you will have fewer inhibitions and will be able to respond better to him physically.
Since marriage is an important decision, it is not unusual to have second thoughts about having chosen the right partner.
Analyse this relationship for yourself or if possible, discuss with your partner as to what is the most important aspect of this future relationship.
Make sure that lack of physical attraction is not an excuse for something that is more seriously wrong with your relationship.
If you are convinced about going ahead with your plans, then give up these thoughts and look forward to good times.
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First Published: May 20, 2005 02:50 IST