How abandonment issues can impact self-esteem

From negative self-talk to avoiding deeper connections, here are a few ways by which the abandonment wound can impact our self-esteem.

Published on: Jan 27, 2024 2:45 PM IST

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Fear of abandonment from childhood can have traumatising impact on our adult relationships as well. We learn to internalise that fear and it shows up in our behavioural patterns. "Abandonment wounds run deep, often shaping our self-esteem in profound ways. ⁣From internalising rejection to fearing intimacy, the impact is real," wrote Therapist Allyson Kellum-Aguirre. (Unsplash)

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When we carry the abandonment wound in us, we believe that we are fundamentally unlovable and unworthy.  (Unsplash)

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Abandonment issues can fuel negative self-talk. The harsh self-critic in us can make us feel that we do not deserve to be loved and cared for.  (Unsplash)

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We often end up avoiding investing in deeper connections because we feel that we will be abandoned. This further makes us feel unworthy and creates a vicious cycle.  (Unsplash)

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Abandonment wound can drive us to strive for perfectionism in order to avoid criticism and failure. However, this can also make us feel unworthy.  (Unsplash)

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In relationships, we often end up seeking approval and validation from the partner in order to feel good about ourselves.  (Unsplash)