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You may think you know it all but do you really? Major sex myths debunked

Sexperts demystify popular myths related to orgasms, G spot, condoms, sexual tendencies of women, and more. If you think you know of them all, you will be surprised.

sex-and-relationships Updated: Apr 07, 2017 08:01 IST
Sneha Bengani
Sneha Bengani
Hindustan Times, New Delhi
Women want sex as much as men do, even more in some cases, say sexologists.
Women want sex as much as men do, even more in some cases, say sexologists. (Images: Photomicona/Facebook)

Are women more likely to be bisexual than men? No. Can anal sex get you pregnant? No. Can men have multiple orgasms? No. Can a man and a woman reach climax together? No. Do men want sex more than women? No.

Do you know all that there is to know about sex? No.

So we ask Dr Prakash Kothari, Head of the Department of Sexual Medicine at King Edward Memorial Hospital and Seth Gordhandas Sunderdas Medical College, Mumbai, and Dr Ajit Saxena, Senior Consultant Urologist and Andrologist at Indraprastha Apollo Hospital, Delhi, for some legit information.

So here they bust a few popular sex myths, the ones we’ve heard so often that we confidently mistake them for facts. It’s time to brush up your knowledge and find out how correctly informed you are.

Semen is entirely made up of sperms. Its quality plays a big role in the sexual performance of a man.

Sperms constitute just 0.01% of semen. The rest 99.9% is mostly water, fructose, proteins, calcium, vitamins, minerals and enzymes. The colour, consistency and quantity of semen have nothing to with the quality or the ability of a man to have sex. As men grow older, their semen may become thin, the quantity may reduce, and the colour may change from white to light yellow, but it is perfectly normal.

Women do not want sex as much after they become mothers.

Motherhood does not affect the libido of a woman in any way. However, the vaginal muscles get loose after she undergoes a normal delivery. It may affect the grip or the friction, diminishing sexual gratification.

Having sex for the first time always hurts.

It doesn’t, though hymen rupture can be painful at times. Having rough sex, or without enough lubrication or foreplay; or when your partner is not ready, or uneasy, are usually responsible for painful first times.

The longer it lasts, the better it is.


As long as both the people are satisfied, the duration does not matter.

You cannot conceive if you have sex when menstruating.

True. Sperm only lives for 48 hours and a woman is usually infertile until 10 days after her cycle is over.

Regular porn watching affects your sex life negatively.

Yes. Excessive porn watching can make you delusional. It gives people unrealistic expectations, making them dissatisfied with their sex life. What you see is not possible to achieve under realistic circumstances. It can also give people serious complexes about their bodies.

No method of contraception is 100% effective.

True. There is always a chance of a condom breaking, or women forgetting to take the pill within the stipulated time. The only foolproof way is either to have anal sex, or do it when the woman is on her period.

Women’s libido dies after menopause.

Nope. On the contrary, they get more sexually active after they have had their menopause. Several factors are responsible for this — no risk of pregnancy, their kids have grown up, they have fewer responsibilities, and they are sexually more confident and carefree at this stage of their lives.

Old people do not have orgasms.


They do, a lot more than you’d like to believe. Orgasm has nothing to do with age. Men have orgasms all their lives and there are several young women who never experience orgasms.

Oral/anal sex cannot give you STDs.

It can. HIV is a very common infection contracted through anal sex. Oral sex is not infection free either. Hepatitis B is a popular disease transmitted through oral sex.

Sex using a condom is not as much fun.

It totally depends on the preference of the people involved. Though wearing a condom during intercourse is safer, most people find condom-less sex more satisfying.

For men, ejaculation is the same as getting an orgasm.

Not always. Sometimes they can occur independent of each other. Orgasm has more to do with satisfaction while ejaculation is the release of semen, a medical phenomenon. A man may ejaculate without feeling satisfied. Most men ejaculate after they orgasm.

G spot doesn’t exist.


It does, though not in the exact same spot in every woman.

It is possible to avoid pregnancy if the guy does not ejaculate inside the woman’s vagina.

True, but it is easier said than done. Despite best efforts, some semen invariably finds its way inside a woman’s vagina and the first few drops are the most potent. Called withdrawal technique, this act of a man withdrawing just before ejaculation is a rare feat, but if achieved, it prevents pregnancy.

Condoms provide 100% protection against STIs.

Nope. A few viruses can cross.

Size matters.

No, it doesn’t. The normal anatomical depth of a vagina is 4 inches, plus 2 inches of compressible tissue, making it 6 inches. Only the outer one-third part of a vagina has sensation. The inner two-third is virtually insensitive. So for all practical purposes, a penis the size of two inches (in erect stage) is enough.

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