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Popularity is a two-headed monster, says Cyrus Broacha

And I’ll give you some relief…. err… that is, provided, I’m not doing a headstand at the time.

entertainment Updated: Jun 04, 2012 14:30 IST
Cyrus Broacha
Cyrus Broacha
Hindustan Times

And I’ll give you some relief…. err… that is, provided, I’m not doing a headstand at the time.

I am 15 years, and I’m depressed because no one has ever asked me out. Every girl in my batch, other than me, has been on a date. I don’t have any male friends and I think it will affect my college phase too. Please help.
— Rani

Rani, it’s been famously said, “He who laughs last, laughs longest,” and although I never paid much attention, I understood exactly what it means. Everybody wants to be popular and cool, but obviously everyone can’t be. I think your problem is simple: you’re trying too hard. Stop putting pressure on yourself, relax and just be you. Oh, and one more thing, popularity is a two-headed monster: sometimes, if you have too many friends, it is really hard getting rid of some.

I am 16 and in love with a girl from my neighbourhood. But whenever I try talking to her, I get nervous. Every time I see her, I just smile. I sent her a letter through a common friend asking her to be my friend. She replied saying she doesn’t befriend ‘Faltu’ people. Should I talk to her directly?
— Ankit Singh

Ankit, do you understand traffic signals? Red means stop, green means go, orange, well, not really sure about that one. Your ‘love’ has flatly rejected you and sort of insulted you. I say take it on the chin and move on. Her signal is plain. Instead of girls, concentrate on your driving and, for god's sake, tell us what orange actually means.

I’m 18 and in love with a 19-year-old girl from my college. She recently broke up with her boyfriend, and I think it was because, after we became friends, and started spending a lot of time together. I asked her out, but she said that it’s too early. She just wants to be friends for now, till we finish our studies. But I just have to know whether she really likes me or if she is just playing with my emotions? I need to know what’s on her mind.
— Nauman Kazi

Kazi, although I’ve trained as a mind reader, it’s best I tell you the truth. I can barely read your question, forget minds. It seems your girl is commitment phobic. This is usually more prevalent among the male of a species, except in rodents. The point is that if you really like her, you’ll have to accept her confused ways. And be prepared for some jolts along the way. If I had to guess, I think she likes you, but could change her mind anytime.

I’m 16 and I have a crush on a girl from my school. We regularly chat on social networking sites and exchange texts. But I think that one of my best friends likes her as well. Now I’m confused whether she likes him or me. Should I tell her about my feelings? What should I do?
— Alfred Fernandes

Seems to me you have a problem with your not-so-best friend, not with the girl. Haven't you guys heard of the boy code? Friends never ‘prey’ on the same girl. I think you should speak to him first and clear the ground of all friendly competitors before moving on her. Also, if they are already starting something, you'll be saved from further embarrassment. Next time you want a best friend, do what any civilized person does: get a dog.

First Published: Jun 04, 2012 12:42 IST