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My girl has fallen for my friend

I am in a relationship for over three years now and we've had our share of differences. After a long communication gap, my girl informed me that her feelings for me have changed...

india Updated: Dec 08, 2006 19:47 IST


My girl has fallen for my friend

I am in a relationship for over three years now and we (my girl and me) have had our share of differences that we never discussed. After a long communication gap, my girl informed me that her feelings for me have changed and that she likes some other guy. The tragedy is that man happens to be my friend! What should I do? Is it possible to re-ignite the warmth and love we shared once?


No pleasure during intercourse

There is a major problem while I during sexual intercourse. My girlfriend tells me that during sexual intercourse she never feels any sensation. She can feel my body but no amount of pleasure is there during the act. Although when I play with her clitoris she goes crazy. Now I assume this is not the case in most woman so I know there must be something wrong. She has seen her doc and she says nothing is wrong. Also she does not have vaginismus. Please help, as our relation is approaching a dead end!


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Is promiscuity something sinful?

I have been in a few relationships and have always felt committed to my girlfriends. I have loved all of them but at the same time I couldn't stop having sex with other random girls that I meet up. My friends think that it is bad but I never thought of it as cheating. Is this wrong or is there something wrong with me? I need guidance.


Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla:
Will you stop having casual sex with multiple partners on my interpreting it as 'cheating' when you are in a committed relationship? I do hope you are as immune to the opinion of a cousellor as that of your friends.


In love with 'sister'!

I am caught in a problematic situation. I am in love with a girl four years elder to me. In fact, in my home I call her "my sister" that is when she stayed at our house for two years. We were involved physically with each other for a year. We never thought about its after effects. Now I feel I am ruining her life. I tried convincing her that we end our relation but she feels I am betraying her. I don't know what to do! I love her a lot and wish to marry her but my family situation is not suitable for me to wed her. Is marrying an elder girl a sin? What's the way out?

Liu Kang

Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla:
According to Christian faith, sex outside marriage is sin but marriage to an older girl is not a sin. Your problem is that you are only 18 and legally speaking you cannot get married for the next three years. You can choose to live in sin for this period for all the reasons quoted by you or put a stop to this game of 'sex-sex' by saying a firm no.


First Published: Nov 15, 2006 17:26 IST