Try, try again
How often are we, disheartened by our failures, just ready to give up? Chitra Jha reportseducation Updated: Feb 17, 2010 09:15 IST
The words of Leo Buscaglia, a professor and motivational speaker (also known as Dr. Love) ring true in my heart. He said, “To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard of life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, and is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, live and love.” Leo is asking us to dare to risk, and for that we need to try and try again, until we taste success.
Trying is essential for self-empowerment. Trying again after failing helps us break out of structured thinking and behaviour. It helps us break out of our comfort zone and barriers. Continuous endeavour helps us experience new levels of thoughts and feelings. Eventually, we end up experiencing more of life.
A person who keeps trying again and again, despite making mistakes, leads a more honourable life than one who doesn’t. Only those who keep trying know how far they can go. Each new trial helps us build a new relationship with our life. It helps us experience life from various perspectives. Each renewed effort helps us discover how to ‘do’ life rather than let life do us.
So, how does one start? Let’s suppose I don’t know what it is that I want from life. In that case, the best step I can take is to get involved with just about anything that comes my way. I would start with the first available opportunity and soon realise if the choice is right or not. If it feels right, I would go ahead with it; but if it doesn’t, then I must have the patience and the courage to try something else. By beginning to do something, I will eventually begin to gravitate toward what I really want by tweaking my interests and experiences. Finally, I will line up with who I am and what I am here to do. Things will eventually fall into place. This is the power of trying until you get it right.
Some of you might say that trying out new things is a waste of time. However, the fact remains that time is never wasted, no experience goes in vain, and no life is useless. Each step logically leads to the next; as long as we keep lifting each foot to stay in momentum. As we confidently take one step after the other, the floodgates of universal support open up for us. Following our heart and our passion puts us in alignment with our life’s purpose. However long it may take, however many failures it may encompass, we will eventually get there.
Most of you must have travelled by air. When the aeroplane moves through a layer of clouds, all you can see is just white fuzz. Your perception becomes totally limited. The moment the plane comes out of the clouds, everything becomes clearer. Suddenly, a new perspective comes into view. Sometimes the plane moves into yet another fuzzy area, and you may again feel completely lost, but soon you get past that time of uncertainty. Similarly, life moves through several different layers of clouds, offering us several different points from which we can see our life and the events taking place around it.
This is happening with all of us. We are moving through different levels of clarity as our aeroplane steadily climbs up. At any point, when we encounter a fresh set of doubts, it helps to look at life from a higher perspective and just carry on.
So, enjoy this ride and if you fall, simply get up, loosen up and try once again. Try, try again ... until you get it right!!
The author is a life-skills coach, time-line therapist, and new consciousness writer.